New baby and feeling isolated from partner

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Did anyone else find this? We never argue or anything but I feel as if we are becoming remote to one another. He’s working Monday to Friday and finishes around 6. Baby has bath between 7 and 8 and usually in the crib by 9, so I am in bed then too. It means we barely see one another and definitely no sex. Is this something which improves?

How old is your baby? Babies can put a real toll on a relationship, it can take a long while for things to feel normal and to adjust to this new life. You have to work as a team or else one of you is going to resent the other.

So what does your partner do when he comes home? Does he take the baby? Can you do bath together? Does he cook? Are you disappearing at 9 so you can get some sleep? He should be coming home and get involved with whatever needs doing as you need to be a partnership. What about at the weekend?

Yes although we argued too! Until DD was about 4 months and started going to bed at 8 and we got our evenings back I was miserable going to bed about two hours after he got in from work and most of that was taken up with dinner etc. Now she's 6 months I feel like we're able to properly reconnect. Hang in there if there's nothing else amiss in your relationship.