So angry!

[Seekingjoy]

Hi everyone. I just wanted to get others opinion of this. I’m really struggling at the moment with my husband, he’s been doing very little around the home and tends to leave lot stuff to me . Should mention tho he does do the cooking (some will prob think I’m lucky) but there still is a lot left to me and he never offers to help and when I ask for help I feel he can’t be bothered . And for some reason I feel awkward when asking him like I’m really putting him out.
Anyways just trying to give you the picture first before my question.
The other day he put our little 2 year old daughter down for a nap and a couple of hours later when I went to get her she didn’t have a nappy on and he said because there were none left!! I was working from home so wasn’t aware and he was off on leave. So he put her to bed with no nappy on and thank goodness she didn’t have any accidents but it could been lot different! All he had to do was nip round to the shop as I was there anyways and buy a packet of nappies but he’s too lazy to do this .
I’m super annoyed about it and he doesn’t get it . Am I over reacting ?

This is men's logic.

We had some coriander in a pot in the kitchen. that was wilting. I asked him why he hadn't watered it. He said 'you were going to cut some bits off it' - duh....

Of course . Me , always me

Why didn't you tell him to go and buy some?

I honestly don't understand why people don't pull their partners up on stuff like this, he's 50% responsible for this child!.

Who the fuck leaves a baby in bed without a nappy and doesn't even think to go and buy some more, or at the very least talk to their partner about it and one of you goes and gets some. This is either a complete lack or care or awareness for their baby, or beyond selfish and lazy!

Who would have cleaned up the mess of the baby had either wee'd or poo'd in bed? Don't tell me, the op would have. Again why is it always left to you. I'm not blaming you op but you need to stop enabling this man! Start making him responsible for his actions. He holds down a job so must make some decisions during the day, so him not making a decision to buy nappies either boils down to laziness or he simply couldn't give a toss about the baby or who cleans up the mess!

@harknesswitch hey I honestly don’t know why after 7 years of marriage I feel awkward in saying to him to go buy nappies, it may stem from early marriage days when he said for me not to talk down to him, when I ask
Him to do something he reacts like I’m a mother treating him like a kid. I ended up going to buy the nappies and yes
It would of been me cleaning up the mess . When I pull him up on stuff
He turns it around like I’m starting at argument I can’t win

@pictish thank you for your understanding and support, I was offended by that question. I’ve 2 little toddlers a hubby like a toddler as well work from home and try to keep house etc tidy/bills paid , car maintained etc, It is easy to forget sometimes xx

He's trained you not to say anything to him, not to pull him up on anything and not to challenge him. Sounds like he started this at an early stage in your relationship and you've continued down this vein. You need to find your voice op.

Pointing out how ridiculous it was that a) he put your baby to bed with no nappy on, b) ask him why he didn't go and buy some more nappies and c) not expect him to clear up any mess his decision caused is not you starting an argument, it's you treating him like an adult and expecting him to pull his weight - and quite bloody rightly so.

You both need to sit down and reallocate jobs/roles within the house.

List all the things which need doing and split down the middle