Would you date someone who was very specific that they were looking for someone older?

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I met a guy online who does the same job on me -through SM of that job.

He is about 10 years or so younger. But he is looking for someone older that him about 10 years older -that is his first criteria.

Now I can see why you might have a criteria of 'not having kids'etc but but only date women older than you?

He says it's personal choice -that's what he wants. I can't help but feel maybe it is related to the fact he is 35 and he can't have children medically -his long term partner left him after years of trying for a baby -as she wanted a child. She is now married and has a child.

I suppose it no different to me refusing to date someone who lives far away -as I know I'm not up for any relocation.

I just don't want to be with someone younger than me because they wanted 'older'.

He seems nice and pleasant etc and funnily enough I've relocated from 6 hours away from him to 2 hours away -so a relationship might be feasible.

It just worries me a bit. He's upfront and honest. I support I could say -I do use age as I wouldn't date someone more than 10 years older. etc

My ex husband was nearly 10 years younger -but his age never came into why I wanted to date him or not.

I think you're probably spot on that he can't have children and at 45 most women won't be able to have them. I'd imagine that a lot of women in their mid 30s would like to have kids.

I met a guy online who had put his date of birth in wrong when he signed up (or so he said) so appeared in my search as being 44 but was actually 34. He said he’d left it like that because he liked older women, is really into 1980s culture so probably has more in common with women in their 40s who lived through it! I was also a little suspicious of him fetishising older women until I found out a bit more about him. Definitely wouldn’t rule someone out straight away, but if it became clear he had mummy issues I’d be off like a shot.

Honestly if all else seems well I'd give it a go and try not to overthink it. It should be clear to you pretty quickly if his reasons are iffy. You will like each other or you won't regardless of age.

Not for me, but each to her or his own, as long as you are not someone who dumps someone when they get to middle age. You could even become President of France!

Given his condition, it's understandable that he's looking for someone who won't be wanting children. It's not a fetish, just pragmatic.

I have friend my age who's always dated women older than us to some extent, some our age, never younger, said he found them 'immature' - I always got the impression he admired people with more experience in life in general, he would be friends with men older than him too.

He can't have children (grim childhood accident), I don't know if this plays into it really - but his last gf and flings before it have been mid to late 40s, divorced with kids. We're early 30s.

Like you I'd want to know a bit more about why.
But yes if I was happy with the answer then I'd see no problem and no different to my non- negotiable - must be taller than me and dark haired. For no other reason than that's what I'm attracted to.
If he mentioned 'cougar' or 'experienced' though, I'd be out.

In my experience a lot of men who say they are looking for older women are doing it because they want sex and think it will I've easier as the older woman will be flattered. I personally prefer younger men as I find men my own age(early 40s) don't have the same sex drive as me.

I’m 30 and the guy I’m currently chatting too is 43. I prefer an older guy so I see no problem with it.

I eould be totally relaxed with it.

I don’t know what happened there, I was mid post, complete with typo to be corrected and it posted.

I’ll try again.

I would be completely relaxed about it. So he has a starting criteria, it may not be a tablet of stone.

Older women are wiser anyway (lighthearted before anyone jumps down my my throat).

I am early 40s and had friendships with 10 years younger and 10 years older, both have been fun.

I don’t get the he’s wanting sex comment up thread. That is what people who are dating do. It’s not something a woman gives to a man.

My 2nd DH was 20 years younger. He left me after many years as he decided he wanted a child(That hasn't worked out for him and he's rather bitter about it).

Everyone has their preferences and only you can decide. I just think you're just not that into him or you'd be more willing to at least go on a couple of dates.

I'm not too bothered about men anymore but if I were, I'd definitely choose one a bit younger. I'm still young at heart. I have a gf who is a bit older than me and she feels the same way. She dated someone around her own age and he was painfully boring and set in his ways.