Break up advice

[Purple122]

So a guy I’ve been seeing broke it off after 5 months after I initiated a talk about where the relationship was going. He said he shouldn’t come round ‘at the moment’ and he needed something casual, he wasn’t looking for someone else but felt I wanted more (which I did). It seemed fairly amicable and I send him a last message saying I understood why we couldn’t see each other but it was a shame etc.. Three days later he’s not read my last message on WhatsApp.. He’s left my messages on delivered a couple of times before when he was trying to decide what to say or wanted to say something important. Still feel like I’ve been left hanging though. Shall I forget about him and assume I’ll not hear from him again.. Just hard to let you. I know it’s sad!

He probably feels there's really nothing left to say.

Hope you feel better soon.

Sorry, it's especially hard in lockdown but he hasn't left you hanging - you are broken up. Yes, you should block, forget about him and move on.

Just don’t understand why he wouldn’t read my last message. He seemed like he cared enough to do that..

I think he just said what he wanted to say to break up and now he’s closed the door. I don’t think he’s left anything hanging really. It’s sad, but you’ve got to walk away. Sometimes people say things like “at the moment” to make it sound less harsh. It wasn’t quite right. That’s all.

Clean break?
He's ended things and as far as he's concerned, that's the end of it and he doesn't want to read your reply in case you're upset, hurt, asking to reconsider.

It's cold, yes, but some people are like that.

It's normal for men to pull away at this stage.

He's probably finding it hard to break it off with you, regardless of his reasons.

Doesn't sound like he's choosing to leave you hanging. Best thing to do now is to completely cut contact , do the cliche 'no contact rule' He needs to see what life is like without you. He'll either be thankful you're gone or he'll realise what he's lost. In the mean time, shift all energy onto yourself

When a man tells you something we have to listen and respect what they have said. He didn't want a full time relationship which you did so its time to break away as he has done. I would block and move on, you will just torture yourself looking at ticks every 5 minutes. He hasn't read or replied to your messages because he doesn't want to. Its harsh but every communication is a communication, including no communication.

I think he's been quite clear. Delete him and move on.

Thanks all. Think I just need confirmation I should move on.. Jenny215 - I’m going to take your advice and do the no contact thing. By which time I’ll have moved on if he doesn’t contact me/re think. Feeling a bit more positive. If I was in his position though.. I’d definitely have read the message. Oh well..