Planning to ttc

[Cristal302]

Hello my fiancé and I have been together for coming up to 11 years this year, we are in a situation where we’re both ready to start a family now and have both decided we want to try in the near future, we both have jobs, a house and both drive, we would love to book our wedding for early next year but we are just worried that it will just get post poned anyway with everything going off and just don’t want it to be later that we’re trying if we wait until after we’re married, as I know big weddings with lots of guests will probably not be allowed for some time, I’m just struggling to know whether it’s best to just wait a couple of year to book our wedding and try starting a family in the meantime, my fiancé has spoke of wanting children for years but I've been putting it off until we got our house etc and now I’m really broody, been on the same mini pill now for around 12 years and I’m currently 28
TIA

No one can tell you what's best for you. You are 28 though not 38 so you have some time. Lots of people have had babies During this pandemic. It's harder admittedly but it's been fine. Only you can decide what's right for you. Just bear in mind it doesn't always happen right away.

There's also a conception message board on here if you want more advice

@Bells3032 thank you for your reply and kind words, yes that is true, I know it’s something that only I can decide, I guess I felt I needed to see what any one else’s opinions were if they were in a similar situation, yes they have haven’t they and like you say it’s of course harder but you get through it, that’s what I was worried about as I’ve never tried before or had any scares and with me being on the pill for so long, so I’m baring in mind it may take a while and I think that’s why I’m worrying myself that I don’t want to leave it too much longer, great thank you I’ll have to post on there

Me personally, I would book your wedding for the near ish future and plan to wait to TTC after you're married. Being able to have the lovely wedding that you'd always imagined is probably less likely to be scuppered by COVID next year, but certainly will be a lot more challenging with a small child in tow. I think your wedding day is one of the few times in life when the focus is just on you and your partner. I wouldn't have wanted to spend the day also caring for a toddler, having to end the evening early to put toddler to bed, or having to rely on someone else to care for my child that night if you wanted to stay at the wedding until the end (and who would that be? Someone who would need to go easy on the drinks, have the energy for being up at night with a small child, etc.). I would plan a wedding that could be scaled back in terms of numbers for next year. Realistically, we will be in a much better place in a year and I wouldn't be too worried about needing to re-schedule. You are also only 28, so you have plenty of time assuming you have no known fertility problems. I hadn't even met dh yet until I turned 28! But I wouldn't rush the TTC bit. Enjoy your time together now, plan the wedding you had hoped you'd have, make the most of those early days of marriage when you can still be carefree, travel, have a lie in, etc. and then start thinking about TTC.

@mindutopia thank you for your reply, I’m definitely going to take everything on board what you say, that really does make sense, for someone to explain it to me from their perspective I think it makes me understand more in terms of not having to rush, I think I was just so worried that next year things would still put us back but like you said I spoke to my partner about possibly crunching the numbers if we did book just Incase there’s still a lot of restrictions on numbers etc, it’s definitely food for thought, thank you for your help it’s much appreciated