Worried partner is on Facebook dating

[Purplepeople12]

Hi, I noticed that my partner has Facebook dating in his shortcut bar across the top of his page. It has the home button then marketplace, then fb dating, then notifications. I clicked on it when he was out of the room and it asked if he was ready to get started but I'm worried he is using dating sites and that's why fb put it up there? Has anyone had this come up in their bar and they're not using any form of OLD? I don't mean in the page where you can get to everything, I mean the bar that runs across the top of the homescrern on android and the bottom on iPhone. Thanks

@TheFormidableMrsC Well between you and me......!!!! This is last chance saloon, if this one doesn't work out i will happily give up. I was cheated on by my ex husband, shock of my life, and I guess as a bit of self preservation I will never allow myself to be blind sided again (as much as I can avoid it anyway!)

[quote Purplepeople12]@TheFormidableMrsC Well between you and me......!!!! This is last chance saloon, if this one doesn't work out i will happily give up. I was cheated on by my ex husband, shock of my life, and I guess as a bit of self preservation I will never allow myself to be blind sided again (as much as I can avoid it anyway!)[/quote]
Oh bless you, it's shit isn't it. This is my 8th year single because I really don't think that I can trust anybody again. I understand the reason for your caution but judging by what you've said, it does sound like he's up to anything!

"Doesn't" sound 🙄. Sorry!!

[quote Purplepeople12]@bitchrestingface28 Its not good is it?! I wonder if it is trying to trace those of us who don't have a relationship status?[/quote]
Ooh that's interesting! I don't have a relationship status on mine..

Maybe, I still have my relationship status set to single so it could be? I understand the reasoning though I don't think I was jumping to conclusions when I saw it, I just noticed it as like I would notice tinder and be shocked?! I think if you've been hurt in some way before then you're always suspicious, on the other hand my relationship is actually lovely and I'm very happy.. I suppose it's just waiting for the bubble to pop

It’s on mine too! I noticed it this morning.

I’ve never used online dating, and I’ve been with my partner for years and years.

However, I’ve never set up my Facebook page properly, and my relationship status states single, so maybe they are aiming at those with single status 🤷🏻‍♀️

I was too scared to go into though as didn’t want to set anything off. After reading this thread I will now be trying to delete it.

The fact that you are snooping on his computer and have doubts means you have reason to be suspicious or you are bonkers

@TheFormidableMrsC It certainly is, I'm also 8 years in, I've found someone I trust (as much as I ever will) and I suppose I'm just finding it hard to see the innocence in these things so have to double check. I truly meant what I said though, I will never try again if this relationship fails, I have good friends, family, (& Netflix and cats!) so I think I'd be ok on my own

@bitchrestingface28 we haven't changed ours, never really felt the need to announce it, but it was just a thought as to whether this is how Facebook targets these things. I do think, that if there was anything untoward we wouldn't get a look in on their phones though!!! Totally get what you mean about waiting for the bubble to burst, for me it's almost a feeling of wanting to protect myself

@nitsandwormsdodger I'll happily take bonkers thanks

@Purplepeople12

Just wanted to confirm with you that the dating symbol is at the bottom of my bar too. Never used it.

Also I haven't set my relationship status, I've left it blank so this may be why it's coming up for me

Honestly though the worst he's probably done is have a look at it, it's a load of bollocks anyway. You've been cheated on before, you'll know if he's cheating on you

I just checked and it's on my shortcuts too even though I've never used it. Doesn't sound like something to worry about OP.

Thank you, you've all helped put my mind at ease

@Purplepeople12

Thank you, you've all helped put my mind at ease

You'll know. I'm sure he's a good chap! Hope you can stop worrying now. I really do get it though

It came up on my bottom menu bar thing, having not been there before, when I removed my relationship status (had it as separated since I separated from my STBXH 2.5 years ago, but removed it because I'm now living with my new partner but have decided that I want to keep my profile much more private about things like that). I'm very happy in my new relationship, and definitely not looking for anyone else! I've just managed to remove it in settings.

Hi Ladies,
I had the same issue with my partner last night when he sent me a screenshot of something on Facebook and I noticed Facebook dating showed under the post, not on the shortcuts part
it makes me suspicious because before that in the middle of the day he had sent me a screenshot from Facebook but had cropped the bottom out? He was acting very defensive and I feel like it’s because he was caught out? Does it also appear at the bottom like this if you don’t use it?

Mine had a short cut but I’ve never used it. Are you suspicious in general of him having an affair? Is that why you’re checking his phone?

@Shosho96 that's the same thing I was discussing, that's the shortcut bar, so I have done lots of research & it does just appear there for some. On its own don't worry about it

I didn’t check his phone he sent me that screenshot and it was in the bottom corner, last month he sent a screenshot and FB dating didn’t show on the shortcut bar

Thank you for confirming this, I find it odd that on the same day he sent this he sent a screenshot from Facebook but cropped the bottom out before sending?

Maybe last time he just cropped the whole picture, not for any dodgy reason, just how it happened to crop last time. I think you're over thinking this if there nothing else

Thank you for the reassurance ❤️ He has been acting distant for the past few weeks so when I seen that I think I did get worried

Hi guys but what do you see as the shortcut is this it? Or the one in settings 🤔

Sort of related, but I installed the cider app to look at a dress (yes I'm aware it's cheap and made overseas. I did not buy it I just wanted to look at it). Anyway the app sent various notifications but one happened to pop up that said "It's a Match! 💕" with two heart emojis. I was sat next to my wonderful partner and I felt his heart break for a second and I was absolutely gobsmacked myself. I opened it immediately and saw it was that bloody clothing app telling me I need to buy nasty fast fashion trousers. Uninstalled the home wrecker app immediately after, but that could have really ruined trust and I would absolutely not have blamed my partner for being suspicious after seeing that. Thank god I saw it too and we looked at my phone screen at the same time otherwise I think he would have just suffered in silence wondering if I was on dating apps.

My partner found a dating icon on my Facebook page. There was already people in it.
However, I barely use Facebook and I have no idea how this happened. This is affecting our relationship now. Any tips anybody knows what’s going on here?