Separation

[mumofboysnot1but2]

Hi. I left my husband a week ago. Things have been bad for a few years,he has been accusing me of cheating for years. I haven't but he will not accept it. This has resulted in him being vile to me verbally. He has told the kids that that mummy has a new boyfriend and even accused me of being a lesbian, it seems no one is safe from me in his mind. He belittles me and criticises my clothes, underwear my friends etc. I have had to call the police this week twice. They have put me in touch with the domestic violence charity etc.
My issue is that I have had to move out with the kids and he is refusing to leave our home and he has changed the locks so I can't get the kids things. We rent and the tenancy is in my name only. He has lost his job and so wouldnt be able to afford any bills etc. I know I can't force him out but I really want the kids to be back in their home.
I have no idea what to do, I have thought about an occupation order but I'm not eligible for legal aid apparently and I can't afford solicitor fees. I'm stuck and I dont know where to turn. Thanks

You're a victim of domestic violence, why aren't you eligible for legal aid?

If you rent and it's in your name! He should leave! Contact your landlord x

The solicitors have told me I'm not entitled to it. They only base it on childcare outgoing and rent so due to this I cant get it.

Play him at his own game and change the locks.

Does the landlord know you’ve moved out? Do they know that your partner had been living with you there before you left?

If you’ve signed the tenancy on your own, then he or she is not going to be happy that a third party (from their POV) is living in the property. They might have all sorts of problems when the tenancy ends. Also, I’m pretty sure it’ll be in the agreement that locks can’t be changed without permission (and a copy of the key to the landlord).

So one route (to get him out) might be the landlord. The other would be the Police. If he has no legal right to be living there then you can ask them to turf him out. Make sure you mention the DV so they don’t fob you off with “it’s a civil matter.”

Alternatively you can arrange for the police to be there to keep the peace when you go to remove the items you need. But if you do remain living somewhere else, you really need to let your landlord know what’s happened.