Ex and caring for DD - any advice appreciated?

[Alittlepieceofsilence]

My ex has overnight contact with our dd every other week for 2 nights, but each time she comes back she has painful nappy rash to the point of it bleeding (could be from her scratching) matted hair (it's very curly but fine). Poor DD also comes back constipated to the point her little belly is so distended and so thirsty.

My issue is contact is court ordered, don't think I can breach the order on the above and I have already brought these concerns to his attention but he does nothing, I've made suggestions etc but I'm just trying to cause issues.

Has anyone experience this? And what did you end up doing? Any advice would be appreciated.
OP’s posts:

No advice op but sounds like he's bring a little neglectful not necessarily on purpose so can you sit down and have a good talk about routine? Nappy free time when she has a sore bum, changing nappy more often, combing her hair etc?

I meant no experience sorry

@Jesskir89 already had these conversations, that's part of the problem unfortunately. It still persists and I then get threats of him going for residency if I don't shut up.. pretty much sums it up.

Record everything with your HV. Photographs of the rash and matted hair. This is neglect and you have a responsibility to report it and report his threats too.

You call your health visitor or social services and report what is happening.

Take her to the GP for constipation.

Report him to the health visitor and the GP. Take her in; explain how the situation happened. Treat it like any other case of neglect!

If he won't listen op I agree you should speak to your hv they would have dealt with similar situations before. Good luck

@Endofthelinefinally didn't think I'd be able to take photos of the rash.. may sound daft but isn't it illegal even though it's obviously for documentation and she is my daughter?

But thank you all, I have raised it with HV before but not my GP.. also have written documentation of the marks the nappy rash has left of DD and photos of her hair. So I'll start getting the gp involved now and nursery has documented the rashes.

DD is currently being assessed by camhs for ASD and isn't able to communicate well verbally, sometimes not at all. So not even like she could tell him that she needed or had been to the toilet.

Your hv will be able to tell you whether you can take photos.

@Alittlepieceofsilence it’s not illegal to take pictures of your daughter for medical reasons.

@Youllbeoldertoo @Endofthelinefinally thank you