Met a man on online dating end of last year. Been seeing each other 2 months. At first I was very keen, really looked forward to seeing him (we are bubbled - two single adult households). My time is very limited, I work full time and 2 children at home so we have been seeing each other twice a week and staying over. We don't do anything day time as I'm working, and when i stay with him a weekend night I want to go back to my house (or him to leave mine!) in the morning. I just like and need my alone time and I was choosing to use all my alone time with him. I've had to make excuses last 2 times as to why he can't stay over - work/childcare. I much prefer it this way. I don't like sleeping in bed with anyone and on the few mornings I have without my children here (at their dads) I want to potter around on my own.
Longer term I can't see it going anyway due to lifestyle differences (despite having a very professional job he smokes weed every day which is something I would never live with), also I don't want to move a man in with my children probably ever.
So if I'm bruatally honest.... thinking about it, I would like to see him one or two evenings a week, have something to eat, drink some wine, we normally have a good chat and a laugh and have sex. Then I want him to go home! I've never done FWB before... but thinking that actually this is probably what I'm wanting.
Guess I need to have a conversation with him as I def don't want him staying over anymore or to stay at his (I never sleep as his snoring is horrendous so I am tired for days after). If somebody said to me I'd like to see you twice a week for dinner and a shag and then you go home I'd probably tell them to eff off!