I’m 34 and single again, scared I’ll be alone forever

[Singleagain34]

I just ended my relationship of three years. I’m 35 this summer. I do have a DC who is 16, I always wanted 2-3 DC if I could but more than anything to have a loving and committed relationship. I feel like time is rapidly running out for me and I’m scared I’m going to have missed my chance for good

Can anyone share their success stories of finding a partner after 34?

Especially with covid and dates not being a thing how on earth can you even meet people?

Good grief woman! You are in an amazing position to re start your life: your child is independent or will be in the next2 years so no need for expensive babysitters and at 34 you will find that there are plenty of nice people in OLD who are coming out of long term relationships (that seems to be the time when people start getting divorced).

You are very young and the pool of possible candidates at that age is huge compared to when you get 10 years older. Just give yourself some time to get over your last relationship so you are in a good strong place to go through OLD in a year or so. 🙂

By the way, something that helped me find the right person without a lot of dramas was not agreeing to “blind dates”, I offered to meet for “a friendly coffee, no strings attached, no pressure” during the day to see if there was potential for something else. I found some people attractive that didn’t find me attractive and viceversa but without the pressure of it being a “date” we could be ourselves and ended up making a lot of friends (no benefits, I may add) until I found the one.

Dates are still a thing - going on walks. I'm going on one this weekend (I'm early 40s).

Yeah you can be successful single . Don’t rush ! Have fun just being you . Taken me a while to feel that way but just don’t think about it . Love life just with you and your child and enjoy what’s to come not what you need / expect to come x

I’m also 34 and I recently found a loving and happy someone ..... me 🥰
34 is young and it will happen when it happens x

Met my DP at 35, 5 years later we own a house and a scraggly old cat together and I couldn’t be happier. I learned so much from my previous relationships, and I’m bringing the best me in to this one and not accepting anything less than great. Honestly OP, you are at the perfect age to meet someone lovely.

I'm recently single after 8 years and I'm 37. I'm worried to death I'll never find someone else - not that I'm even thinking about it at the minute! It's definitely something I worry about though. A few of my friends do the whole OLD but I couldn't think of anything worse!

OMG, you are still so young! Plenty of time for a partner and more DC. A friend of mine reached 40 without meeting ' the one' and had all but given up, then - there he was!! Within a couple of years they were happily settled with 2 DCs.

OLD now, in the pandemic, actually sounds better than before as people are meeting up for walks together, which sounds so much less pressure I think. Loads of things to see and talk about, no pressure to 'dress up' and being outside is much nicer than coffee or dinner and a much more natural environment to meet in.

Honestly, don't give up! Wishing you well with this, you're coming into your best decade yet!

Blimey, I'm 42 been single 2 years and couldn't be happier! I soon realised after the split I don't have the time for relationships, or to put up with the bullshit.

Look at it this way, chances are that the next person you meet isnt going to be with you until your old age. Partners come and go your whole life. So it is literally impossible to run out of time to meet someone.

Desperation however, might mean you let the wrong person into your life.

As for kids...you've another 10 years left easily.
Stop stressing!

It’s an amazing time to be single, I had the time of my life. My exh would have the children eow, I worked on myself, went out and partied. the year being 35 I travelled weekends away all over the place with friends and family. The uk and Europe. I made new friends and gain loads of confidence. I then met my dp whilst I was the best version of me at 36.
I know it’s not the same at the moment with covid but it can truly be the best year yet. You don’t even have to worry about child care and you already have a travel companion to share the experience with

I was single from 33-35 and had the best time of my life. I got a lodger, a fab gay guy who I'm still friends with now, and my dog. We lived life how we wanted to, chilled out, or hunting for men on a night out.

In fact when DH turned up, I was genuinely happy being single (he was just too good to turn down)

Focus on yourself first and be genuinely happy single. Then when the right one turns up you'll know, and you won't settle for any idiot behaviour.

I would have thought that you would be someone who many men of your age would love, given you have a child who is almost an adult not one of primary age. Just hope you can spot the manchilds and misogynists to avoid and be patient.

... you have time! x