Not happy with my life but don’t know how to change it

[bombastical]

Just that really.
I’m early 50s, difficult non communicative marriage, very few friends. I feel stuck. We’ve ended up living in commuter belt land, private school expensive route, big house and I’m incredibly unhappy. I find it really hard to make friends here. I want a different life. I don’t know what I’m asking but I just wondered if anybody else had ever had this and changed their lives for the better?

bombastical I moved away. But my children are grown up so I moved towards where they live. But because it’s country roads it takes longer to drive to see them than it would’ve before, as it was motorways. Wasn’t quite the plan but where I live now it’s worth the journey.

There's absolutely nothing stopping you achieving all these things. You are complaining and winge, but you've done nothing about it.

Why don't you create a practical plan. Talk to your Dh. Get some estate agent quotes. Look to move. Start trying to create new friendships in the new areas you want. All of these things are actually small and entirely possible.

No mention of a job, do you work OP?

If you don’t work, kids primary school age, in a town you don’t like with not many friends it sounds like you feel bored & aimless.

Judging your life by Instagram standards is not sensible - we all know social media portrays only what you want to show & is carefully curated.

What I have noticed on this Uk forum is people over there seem to view a 45 minute drive as “long distance”. In my country this is a standard drive.

Would you actually be stuck in this same town if you split up or if you looked at a map & what towns are within 1 hour away is there not an area you might like more? (England is beautiful and am sure if this is where you are you can find a place half an hour or so away which suits you better.)

You don’t have to stay where you are. You should love the town you live in if at all possible. Being stuck somewhere you don’t like sounds awful.

You seem vague & confused about what you actually want your life to be like or look like. I think you could find some satisfaction by focusing on work/career now kids are older.... then at least that will give you the financial backing to make changes in life should you want & feel less “stuck”.