Seeing a guy for four months. Met on OLD. He’s early 40s, me mid 30s. I was open and kind to him but set boundaries as I’ve been dating for years and have met some total shockers. So I’m quite circumspect until we’ve dated a while. That said I’m generous and hope, open and kind.
He was keen from the start.... now I’m wondering if it was lovebombing. Things like, we were both alone for Xmas so he invited me for a meal. We spent quite a bit of time together. And no... he wasn’t married!
He also contacted me all the time. I’m so used to not much contact because the guys I’ve met so far have really just been interested in getting their leg over. No one (bar one guy) has ever called. But this guy did and said he wanted me to contact him a bit more. I thought fair enough... maybe I’m being a bit standoffish.
So I did... let my guard down a bit and developed feelings. He had to go away for work. He said he would call when he got there. He didn’t. I waited about 5 days then texted. Contact became more and more sparse. One call in 3 weeks. I would text to see how he was. Not too much but checking in to show I cared.
He’d reply but never ask how I was. He then said he was extending his stay to have a break. A few days later I asked how it was going.... he said he was back. Ok then!
So in three weeks he went from suggesting we date exclusively (which he did before he left) to nada.
Now a week of silence. I feel I reached out enough.
Why the fuck do they do this? Just tell me FFS that you’ve lost interest... also why manipulate me early on to contact you and stoke my feelings only to disappear.
Farking tosspot. Finding reasons to be relieved is helping... like his feminine hands and the fact that in hindsight he was crap in bed.
Tell me your ghosting stories, give us a laff. feeling so lonely in lockdown and this made me feel URGGGGGG!!!!!