I am in love with someone and he is in love with me. It's complicated in a few ways. But it's love and we are happy so I don't want to walk away. But sometimes like today I'm trying to figure things out and I feel abit lost.
He's older by 13 years. I have little children. His are independent now. Hes lived alone for two years and his last relationship was child free. So that realtionship was based on working, animals and doing things together.
We have talked about my children several times and he's always said it doesn't bother him. He says he likes children and likes the idea of days out etc. But sometimes I feel like is he really aware of children and what they are about?
We talk about the future and what we want to do. But I can't work out the plan he sees for us. If that makes any sense? Like he never says his long term plans. His short term plans. I can't tell how much responsibility he would be willing to take on or if he considers a real family life with them. Or whether he just sees us as a couple in the future and I'll be dealing with the children long term and he won't be getting that involved.
My biggest struggle is he always thinks I'm doubting and over thinking if j ask questions for too far ahead. I guess I just don't want to fall in love any further if we have different visions long term.
I'm not in any huge rush but I just want some idea of what he sees when he looks ahead.
How would you approach this situation?
I just want to understand if he sees us living together one day. If he always wants to live alone now. Things like that.