Just to clarify this isn't a boyfriend/girlfriend thing I just didn't know where to write this. I don't speak to anyone about this as I don't want anyone to know it bothers me, I know it shouldn't but its keeping me up at night and I just want someone to tell me im being daft or tell me what to do!
This girl (ill call her gem) seriously and relentlessly has it in for me.. what worse is I've met her once and was really nice to her!
I was newly friends with a guy from work (hes gay so I don't think she's jealous) ill call him John. Now her and John were living together in a student flat and when I met him they were good friends and he told her about me. 2 days before they argued shehad spat at him and said nasty things to him and smashed his room (which makes me so mad as he's so gentle and soft). I went to their flat as me and John were going somewhere and I was respectful and said hi to her and ever since then she has been relentless towards me.
John moved out of their flat as she was literally making his life hell. She tried to get him in trouble with the police and university she is wild. I supported John but kept out of it, didn't say anything to her as it was none of my business and i didn't want drama on my doorstep.
But still she has continued saying so so much stuff about me. At the time I'd had an affair with someone at work and John must of told her, as a friend and in innocence (hes apologised perfusely since). Since then she has said she would ring my work and tell them (I already had) and social care for my child and I'm not sure why that is! She's called me nasty names, put status' about me on Facebook and one day I snapped. I sent her a message, not aggressively saying - I don't have a problem with her I don't understand why she has a problem with me but could she refrain from involving me in the drama between her and John as I am not a part of it. She then apologised and tried to add me on Facebook which i declined (wish I'd just of left it as neither accept or reject) and left it at that. Fast forward till 4am when she's hammered and she sent me a really nasty message and blocked me. I left it at that. Haven't spoken to her or about her since as I don't want to fuel the fire.
So I heard recently she made friends with someone in my old friend group (its a small town) who invited her to a party and literally spent the whole time slagging me off to all my old group, lying about me and turned some that didn't know me that well against me. She then went to the club in our town, which I go to rarely, and basically started a riot of people against me by telling them how awful I am. So much so one of my other friends told her to stop it as it was getting ridiculous.
what do I do about this?! I understand i cannot control this situation but im at the end of my teather. I have literally left it and left it but apparently she won't let it go! Can I go to the police?!
She just seems so horrible for what she did to John but also what she is doing to me. I have literally said nothing to her or about her that is nasty. Pre being a mum and at work I would of honestly gone round and had it out with her but I don't want to risk anything since she has called the police on my friend from slamming a door in her face when she was chasing him to hit him.
Im 27 year old with a mortgage, a child and a career and issues of my own I can't believe that I am writing this he said, she said nonsense but I am desperate.