Terms of endearment with exes

[Festivalgirl83]

Would it bother you if your DP used terms of endearment to his ex?
The other night his ex came to collect their DC and DP opened the door and greeted her with 'Hey up kiddo'. This is a name he calls me all the time and our DC so felt a bit weird he called his ex this. Just feels a bit familiar and over friendly.

I also think he sends mixed signals, only last week he had sent her a text being quite firm and asking her to stop interfering in certain things etc and then he greets her like this 😕

I've told him I felt uncomfortable but dont think he thinks it's an issue.

That wouldn’t bother me massively, no. Not if they were generally on good terms with each other. If it was stuff like ‘sweetheart’ or ‘honey’ between exes it would bother me though, it would be more intimate somehow. How does she react when he addresses her like that?

Absolute non-issue. Kiddo is hardly darling.

Well if kiddo is the word he uses instead of darling, it IS kind of the same....

@FlossieTeacakesFurCoat18

Well if kiddo is the word he uses instead of darling, it IS kind of the same....

Tbf, if he calls his wife and his kids by the same pet name, it's more likely to be his "go to" generic nickname rather than a personalised term of endearment. Like calling everyone dude or mate or buddy. If it was just what he called his wife, fine, that might be weird, but seeing as it's what he calls all his kids as well, it's likely just a verbal habit and she's reading too much into it.

I call everybody kiddo from time to time. Certainly boyfriend, Dd, friends (male and female). I would use it for dd’s dad too, with whom I am in friendly terms. I have zero interest in him sexually or romantically.