How do you know if you’re unlikeable?

[ItsGalindaWithaGah]

I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this, but it links in to relationships I think.
It sounds pathetic -

I’m 29 and I have no friends. None.
I don’t think I’m an awful person but there must be some reason for it.
How do you know if you’re unlikeable? Or what it is people don’t like about you?
Obviously I could ask but I doubt people would be honest.
I’m not sure what I’m hoping to hear but I’m feeling really down and don’t know what to do to help the situation.

...or the classic book 'How to make friends and influence people'.

You don't want to be constantly agrumentative, nor do you want to agreeing with everything they say. Try to show interest by asking something and THEN after they've talked, talk about yourself a bit on same subject.
I find it hard to deal with people who are always direct and bordering on rude, it's important to disagree tactfully rathert han cutting someone off. I mean some people like that style and get on with a certain type, but most don't.

Someone I know said people fall into two categories: radiators or drains. Radiators give out positive energy. They can be extrovert or introvert but they exude a good energy that other people benefit from. So an extrovert radiator might tell lots of entertaining stories that make a party feel like it's a great success, or encourage a group to include some hangers on and make those outsiders feel like insiders. An introvert radiator might quietly listen and give thoughtful contributions to a conversation or suggest a restorative calm activity to enjoy together without posting every second on FB.

Drains suck the life from you. An extrovert one might monologue at you without ever pausing to ask how you are. An introvert one will expect you to keep the conversation and fun afloat and contribute little. Their tone of voice and body language seems stressed or self pitying. Or they think friendship means a kind of incessant intimacy and dissecting of their problems. They seem to silently need you to provide for them: sympathy or entertainment or energy.

A lot of very nice people can be drains without realising. But if you are, that's why people avoid you. The more you accept and appreciate yourself, allow yourself to act freely and naturally in social situations and contribute to conversations showing you are listening but not grilling the other person, the easier it is to make friends.