Should we try again?

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Name changed for this but I am a usual poster.

I separated from my partner just 3 months ago. We had been together 7 years with a 3 year old.

I was sure I made the right decision. He gave me my space and he started to ‘chat’ with someone else. He swore nothing happend between them.
Now im not sure if he has narcissistic traits, we had issues with intimacy were as I could live without it and he had a high sex drive but he never pushed me into anything, just was quiet if id rejected him which I suppose I would be the same.
He always complimented me how beautiful I looked and I would laugh it off cause I cant take a compliment.
This bugged him. He was away alot with work so we only saw each other 2 days a week.

We have remained amicable through out and he says he missis the family he has lost. Ive told him im happy how things are at the moment and that I dont think I could give you what you need anyway cause I could live wjth never having sex again ( the thought of it with anyone makes me shudder) and he said he doesnt care, he has realised its the family life he wants and sex is not the be all and end all. I dont want to rekindle anything yet but could there be a future between us eventually? I just dont know what to do.

You are sure you made the right decision so stick with that, it's easy to look back in hindsight about the best parts of the relationship. You're not missing out on anything, you remain on friendly terms for the children, the family hasn't been lost it's just you are parenting from separate homes.
Being a sexless marriage in depressing for him and he was already trying to seek someone else in your break, he wouldn't be happy long term and neither would you.

I think him working away played a massive part on why we wasnt working or didnt work out. I was a paranoid person, something I have and still am working on.
When he was on leave for a couple weeks we were great. His work is being moved somewhere more local in a few months and if we were still together he would be home everynight. This is whats making me re think things.

Thanks for you response

Well, I’m suddenly starting to feel paranoid! I’ve been chatting to someone who I suspect is in exactly this position... his name doesn’t happen to begin with A does it?

Anyway... the advice I gave him was that if he feels he could work through the issues he had with his ex and he would be happier back in his family unit, he needs to try and work things out. Sometimes time apart is what you need to work out what’s important!

No his name doesn’t start with A, but I do know he was friendly with someone after we separated, but assures me nothing happened. Which, of course, I don’t believe but at the same time doesn’t bother me.
He knew her long before we separated.

I don't think enough tine has passed to know what we both really want.

And to be quote honest with you, I doubt my ex would be that truthful to tell you he has an ex who he still thinks about