DD20 has been with her BF (27) for almost 3 years now.
Mid December she ended the relationship. He had cheated the year before and she had tried to work through it but they were arguing non-stop.
She told me about the cheating and the arguing and said he wasn't very supportive about her anxiety around trusting him. The girl he cheated with had also been physically violent with DD and she had some anxiety around threats of more etc
She said they text occasionally and she missed him but knew it was for the best.
She came to stay this weekend and last night admitted that he had been very physically abusive this past 18 months. He was arrested a year ago after a stranger saw him beat her and drag her from his car. She wouldn't press charges and stayed with him.
Since she told him it is over he is constantly sending texts or calling her. If she doesn't reply or answer he calls her friend or turns up at her home / work / college. She has a very limited routine due to her anxiety so he knows where to find her.
She knows that blocking him and having no contact is the right thing to do but she is scared he will just turn up constantly. She feels like she is 'keeping him calm' buy allowing him text / phone access and only meeting him every couple of weeks as 'friends'. But when she has met him he is snatching her phone to check if she is seeing someone new, pushing to start again etc.
I have asked her to stay here for a few more days so we can figure out what to do. I want her to block him and go to the police but she won't. How can I help her?
I am gutted my beautiful gentle daughter has been so hurt and is so crushed. She is so scared to make him angry but also so confused by still feeling love for him. I just don't know how to make her better.