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Best way to handle this - blended family

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Rosebella215 · 15/02/2021 12:07

Hi all
Just wanted some advice please on how best to approach this.
My partner has an 8 year old daughter who stays with us every other weekend (approx 3-4 nights).
We currently rent a 3 bed house and use the small bedroom (box room) as a nursery as we have a 2 year old and partners daughter has the other bedroom.
We have just bought a 3 bed (again smallest bedroom is pretty small) but 2nd bedroom is bigger than what we have now. I’m sure you can see where this is going. As of now our one is only 2 so the smallest is fine for them but I worry later on in life (say 2 years into the future) that it would be harder to make them ‘trade rooms’ so to speak. I hope this doesn’t make me sound like a cow, my partner is in agreement that our one would have the larger room just because they are there the entire time.
Just for reference, I have a brilliant relationship with my partners little girl and wouldn’t change it for the world. I come from split parents and hated going to my dads when I was older and not having my own room, so I want to ensure that she always has her own space when she is at ours, all be in maybe a slightly smaller room.
How would you approach this? Partners little girl is already asking if her room is bigger and is excited etc. It’s so hard to know what the right thing is to do...
Thanks
Rosie

OP posts:
Cabinfever10 · 15/02/2021 12:25

Get a cabin bed (high sleepers are great) to maximise floor space let her choose colours and curtains/bedding etc. You could put a desk under the bed and maybe try and sell it as a big girls room.

RedGoldAndGreene · 15/02/2021 12:49

As long as the box room fits an adult single and some drawers or similar so that dsd can fit comfortably then I would put sd in the box room. My kids didn't play in their bedrooms until much older but I wouldn't want to have the swapping conversation with an early teen

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