no sex causing arguments please help

[Bezi]

my ds is 7 months, me and dp only have sex about 3x a month, he used to always pester me for it but I think he has kind of given up on this because I said no so much and its really not attractive being pestered!!Anyway I know this is a prob for us as causing many arguments, the thing is dp never comes to bed at same time as me He usually stays up til at least 12pm, every night this week I asked him to come to bed with me at 10pm, after alot of moaning he did last night, I thought hey presto lets get the ball rolling but he just went to sleep, then woke at about 12pm and prodding me (sorry guys!) I really wasnt interested by then and made this quite obvious, he went mad punched the bed and said I was fall of shit,I didnt want ds to wake with his shouting so went to try to sleep on couch until dp had fallen asleep. Now he's gone to work and we're not talking!!what should I do?

Well I think he's pretty unreasonable waking you up 2 hours after you went to bed.

Did you make it obvious you were up for it?

his reaction was unacceptable. you need to sit down with him and tell him that you are tired, you have a 7mo ds and you cant stay up untill 12am. but you miss sex, you miss the intimacy of it, so one night a week you set aside for the two of you.

put ds to bed, snuggle on the sofa with a bottle of wine and get an early night.

i understand where your coming from. my dh has been like that since i first got prego (29 months ago) with first ds. i even will go as far as getting sexy underpants and make him dinner and serve it in the nude but he'll be like not in the mood. then almost every night (now im 28 weekd prego with second baby) he's trying to but at night is when i feel sick, tired and just need some sleep. (is i still get up with ds1 every morning at 6am and let him sleep) but if i make an effort hes never interested....
i do not understand men!
but your not the only one with this problem

Thanks for the advice guys, were on talking terms now, but not really discussed the issue properly, think I will say something today about setting aside one night a week, then we will both know what the end result will be, Ive always found it quite hard to instigate sex so think this should help, although it seems quite regimented and not very spontaneus it will be a start.

Blimey how annoying

Is he watching porn channels after you've gone to bed?

He's bonkers

Completely understand how you are both feeling. I posted on another thread yesterday something similar.

DH and I are like ship that pass in the night. Last night we both went upstairs, brought voddy redbulls with us & had a nice hot bath together and talked.We were newleyweds, little uncomfortable but it was so nice and we laughed loads.
Hey presto

Sounds like you just need to have fun first and loosen up.

Dont think he's watching porn we dont have sky so no porn channels and computer in bedroom, mostly just playing on x-box. I am not nieve enough to think he dosnt watch porn from time to time though, and obviously he wanks he's a man!!

at the end on one year a while after having ds1(now 8) my dh during an argument produced his diary and anounced that we'd only had sex four times in that past year seriously WTF! I was knackered shell shocked and had PND and quite frankly couldn't have felt less sexy if I'd tried. And was still coming to terms with the fact I'd married the hairyest man in the world!
Did give me a bit of a shock (diary and all) but even now after 11 years of marriage and another DS, DH still doesn't realise that groping me whilst I try to wash up just doesn't do it for me.

Hope you work it out