Am I weird to be upset?

[badger88]

My ex and I broke up about 6 months ago now. We were together for 5 years. We ended things amicably and mutually but it was really sad at the same time - things unfortunately just fizzled out.
We are not exactly in contact but said merry Christmas and happy new year etc. He recently texted to wish me luck for something too.

We always said we would never delete our pictures from social media because we’d never want to act like our relationship never happened - after all it was such a big and happy part of our lives. 6 months later, I noticed that he deleted every single picture today.
Am I wrong to be upset? I’d never even think about deleting ours and it’s strange that he’s waited until now. But I was doing alright with it all and now I feel like I’ve been punched in the stomach ☹️

Your feelings are valid and it’s understandable that you’re upset but he’s obviously moved on , possibly he’s met someone new or is ready to meet someone and doesn’t want it to appear he’s in a relationship. I’m so sorry you’re hurting

I'm sorry, op. I can understand how you feel. I'm thinking your ex feels he needs to move on, and perhaps seeing those photos was difficult for him.

I'm sorry, that's hard to process on today of all days too.

Maybe it was spending valentines alone that spurred him to do it? Or he's ready for a fresh start?

I think if you need answers for closure then it would be fair to contact him and ask him why, then you'd know wouldn't you? Or simply move on yourself and try not to carry the hurt with you xx

Sounds like he's found someone. Either that or someone in his circle has asked why he still has couple pictures of you both on SM and will they not put prospective people off. Or as op said, valentines has hit him hard.

It was an unrealistic ‘promise’. You each have your digital photos, privately, and removing photos on social media after breaking up is usual, often just part of the break up.

It’s not ‘acting like it never happened’.

It is natural for you to feel upset but I imagine this is just part of his way of 'moving on'

In another 6 months you may feel the need to do the same

It doesn't mean that the photos have been permanently deleted but they are no longer shared/public which is not unreasonable

This is another reason why social media is a pain (old gimmer) , back in the day we would be non the wiser if an ex had kept our photos or whether they’d binned them .
Maybe you aren’t as comfortable with the breakup as he is Op, and subconsciously want people to think you are still together?
He hasn’t erased the past though .

People make promises all the time when they’re together & should not necessarily be held accountable

Eg: “I’ll love you forever!”

Unfortunately when you’ve broken up it isn’t a good look for your dating future to have photos of your ex up on social media.

I think your ex has done the sensible thing & you may also want to consider untagging yourself from photos as well.

I think it’s a bit odd to be hurt over this. Presumably the relationship was significant As you say, so it isn’t a good look for either of you to be emotionally hanging onto the significance of a past relationship.

If you meant nothing he may well have left the photos up because well, he hasn’t even bothered to consider the impact of the photos because you meant so little to him that he forgot all about them.

That hasn’t happened - the relationship was meaningful & he has gone to the effort to remove your presence....

having that “ghost” hanging over your social media account Is a bad look & makes it seem like you still want some ownership of him - to be a significant part of his current social media even though it’s over.

I understand feeling a bit slighted but it’s really sensible & not an insult to you

You're not weird for feeling something but it was an unusual and unnecessary promise to make to each other, even though it was an amicable break up. Your photos don't have to be publicly displayed for your relationship to have been real and meaningful.

You don't know that he has deleted the pictures from his private storage areas, and I wouldn't assume he has. He might have just found it difficult to see them.every day or might have thought it would be off putting to a new partner if they were very visible on his facebook profile. Photos from 6 months ago would be almost at the very top of mine as I use it so little.

Try and see it as an unrealistic promise made at an emotional time rather than a big dismissive statement from him and if you want to carry on being friendly and texting now and again, do so. No need to regularly check his facebook.

Ah sorry to hear this , this happened with my ex, he actually messaged me one day and said "just so you know I've had to unfriend you on Facebook and delete our pictures because I've got a new girlfriend and she doesn't like it".
I was upset I think I just replied "how rude!" But I have a husband now and he isn't bothered that i still have the pictures of my ex on Facebook. They are so old I don't really see them now but that was 8 years of my life, if I deleted them and never spoke of any of the memories of literally have no memories from my 20s.