Valentines and cheating men

[Cheatingmen]

So. Found out a week ago my partner had cheated on me. During lockdown! So after a week of talks and the fact we were going to work at it, (him, not me, he’s the idiot), I thought Valentine’s Day would have brought at least a bunch of flowers. He’s super cheap anyway but I have only ever asked for a bunch of £2.50 roses from Sainsbury’s.

I bought our house. I buy him the odd treat here and there during the year. He has stepped up his game with cups of tea and hoovering.

But surely. You cheated on me. The least I expected was a small bunch of flowers.

I don’t want to be one of those women who expects anything on V day as I never have. BUT COME ON.

Nothing. Nada.

Youre right, I'd have expected him to remember and make the effort. It's as if he doesn't care.

I think you're worrying about the wrong thing.

I would have gone mad if he'd bought me a crappy card after cheating on me tbh.

I want a boyfriend to value me and respect me and love me every day.

If he doesn't, a chomp and a dandelion or Lir chocolates and a dozen red roses, it's the same.

I think it’s the least of your worries. He cheaters, why do you want token gestures?

Can you get him out of the house, as you bought it. You're not married are you?

Kick him out, I bet a million men would give their right arm for you OP

I'd be annoyed at that and my bf hasn't cheated!! Not good enough, you deserve much better

A bunch of cheap flowers are the least of your worries yet you're annoyed at that and not the cheating??

The flowers are even more meaningless if he's cheated!

I was reading some dating expert (jana somebody) saying if your bf doesn't get you a valentines gift he's not that in to you and dump him immediately but I think that's just her views on valentine's day. Adults can choose to feel differently about v day!

In my last relationship, we got together in November so mid Feb came around quite quickly, I told him that he had to be respectful, loving and kind to me every day. EVERY DAY! I have a history of giving too much in relationships and a history of feeling angered by whatever fucking piece of chocolate shit was given to me after a year of disrespect. That bf understood completely as he had an x who used to drink too much and then get shouty at him. So he completely understood that Valentines day is a DAY and no more.

You bought a house and he's a super cheap cheat.

Oh OP, no valentine's token, time to smell the coffee, I would use this as the perfect time to, at the very least, get him to move out, stand on his own two feet for a bit and prove he can keep up with you.

He will drag you down. Think of all the places you could see if you didn't have to fund him.

Can’t believe you would want a token gesture from this sleazeball...I’d have his bags packed and would rather have bought my own roses

Why are you even giving him a chance? How would a bunch of cheap roses have made up for anything here?

You’re joking !? Right ?

He’s an absolute arse, cheats on you, but his biggest shittiest character trait is not buying you a £2.50 bunch of flowers from Sainsbury’s on Valentine’s Day !?

Get a grip.