I've NC for this. I know a lot will say he's showing me who he is, that it's not worth worrying over etc, but please bear in mind 4yrs is a long time with someone and its not that easy.
So brief outline. Together 4yrs.. It became obvious we couldn't progress forward so i ended it. I heard nothing from him, 30 days passed then I had a birthday present and card. I said thank you for the present but didn't respond to certain parts of the card..he did reply and it was left on a civil hope you had a good day type message.
The long and short of it is were back to silence and it's clearly over.
BUT I have his stuff. Its not stuff I can post. I don't know what to do. It feels like a longer period of time has passed (5 weeks now) but nothing from him. I don't know why he's not asking for it?
It hurts a lot. We didn't fall out, he's obviously not happy but it's hard to just have this dangling non ending. I kmow it can't be changed so bluntly need him to get his stuff.
How do I word it?
My friends have said just leave it boxed but I feel like then I'll always be waiting for that upsetting moment he asks for it.. Help