Really need advice please

[Stephy4]

Hi all. I have been with my partner a year and I am pregnant (13 weeks) his first my 5th....anyway I'm worried about putting too much weight on this time. I am tiny size 8 but as I'm older this time (32)I'm worried I won't lose the weight after birth. I expressed this to my partner and he said "don't worry your beautiful but if you do get fat and I don't like it you can just lose it again". I was hurt by this comment and explained this and what if I cant lose it this time ext and he thinks I've took it the wrong way and I'm too sensitive. Please ladies help me I don't think I'm being too sensitive at all I think that was very insensitive of him but I cant talk to him about it as he doesn't see how I am hurt by this. May I also add I had anorexia as a teen so this area itself is touchy for me and he is aware of this. Many thanks for reading

He's insensitive, you're sensitive. Are you compatible? How many babies are you planning to have?

We are compatible yes. Thats our only issue. Hes not very good with words so it doesn't help. I wasn't planning on having anymore babies but he has taken on four of my children and has none of his own. Its something we want to share together. I don't understand why that question has even been asked to be honest. My reasoning for my post was to get other peoples opinions incase maybe I was being too sensitive or whether other females would take it the way I did. Thanks anyway

I wouldn't worry about it too much. You're pregnant so you are allowed to be sensitive, and "don't worry your beautiful but if you do get fat and I don't like it you can just lose it again". isn't bad is it. If you're a tiny size 8 after 4 kids you aren't likely to be huge in a year's time.

I was thinking - 4 DSC +1 DC seems a bit like DC might be the odd one out.

Focus on the " your beautiful " bit of what he said.

Rereading what you said, @Stephy4, I'm a bit concerned about you. It might be an idea to keep check on the worries about your weight.
Be very careful about mentioning your appearance to your partner.

I once asked my then DP if I was pretty, he answered "Jenny is really pretty, she's stunning". Jenny (not her real name) was his NDN.