Relationship

[Zakh]

Hi everyone
I am getting worried about my relationship with my husband (together for 20 years). He expects me to be in make up all the time and reacts very negatively if I come up without make up.

This is bringing my confidence down that may be I have such horrible looks that my husband can't bear my real face
I am 44 year old woman and have three kids with a toddler I work full time and have many nights where I cannot even sleep properly because of my my little one. At home its me dealing with kids and household work all by myself. By the time I finish my home duties I am completely knackered and not worried about my make up.
I want to know is there anyone else in same situation where husband is so demanding and how do they mange?
Sorry if the post is not very clearly written. I am very upset/sad because of my huaband's reaction. I am worried how would our relationship last.
Should I need to be more proactive about HAVING MAKE UP ON or shall I think the superficiality of our relationship which is just based on my looks?

Hieveryone
I am getting worried about my relationship with my husband (together for 20 years). He expects me to be in make up all the time and reacts very negatively if I come up without make up.
This is bringing my confidence down that may be I have such horrible looks that my husband can't bear my real face
I am 44 year old woman and have three kids with a toddler I work full time and have many nights where I cannot even sleep properly because of my my little one. At home its me dealing with kids and household work all by myself. By the time I finish my home duties I am completely knackered and not worried about my make up.
I want to know is there anyone else in same situation where husband is so demanding and how do they mange?
Sorry if the post is not very clearly written. I am very upset/sad because of my huaband's reaction. I am worried how would our relationship last.
Should I need to be more proactive about HAVING MAKE UP ON or shall I think the superficiality of our relationship which is just based on my looks?

He’s a massive twat?

Stop doing as he asks!

You shouldn’t need to be worried about the make up. Find something wrong with him, he’s got fatter, he doesn’t brush his teeth properly, he changes into joggers instead of jeans anything really. Then equate it with the make up and nag nag nag. You have bigger problems than the make up though based on your OP

I wish I could do this but then there is threat for me that okay if you are not doing then someone else will do it for me, don't complain then.

I thought about having a divorce but culturally it will be a big thing for me as my parents will not cope with this reality and also be really ashamed. I will not have anyone's support.

Have you asked him why he expects you to be in make up all the time?

Yes and the answer is thats how he likes which was not the case before my job. I was a housewife and I was doing MAKEUP but now with a full time job and sleepless nights the only thing which I am ignoring is is myself. This is affecting my husband but he is not ready to think what I am going through.

dane8 very good advice. I will definitely say all this to him. Thank you

I think your other half is not being sensitive to you it’s very selfish of him , your a mother running the house looking after the kids cooking etc ..
tell him exactly how you feel and if he is not being understanding then there’s something wrong with him not you .