Porn....should I be worried?

[QueryingA]

DH watches porn from time to tine and tbh (rightly or wrongly)I don't have a problem with this. It's the pornhub app on his phone.

However our sex life has plummeted recently, possibly to do with the boredom of lockdown. Then I saw on his phone when I was checking battery use (he asked me to) that you can actually see what Apps are used most and for exactly how long. He wasn't aware of this feature so I didn't highlight this fact, but I saw he had been on Pornhub for 55 minutes, probably when I was at work as he would never watch when I'm around.

This seems an extraordinary length of time and now I'm suspicious. What could he be doing to spend that long on there?? Its not a film or something, could he be engaging in live shows or something?? Other times it has been 10 mins or so but there's a few times it's for a long time and now I'm suspicious, especially with his recent lack of interest in me.

Advice anyone?

I would be worried, he prefers that to you
Are you making it known you want him? If he turns you down and never interested then maybe he feels there is something lacking in the relationship for him.

Any particular reason your sex life has plummeted recently?

seensome
Yes I do make it known to him that I'm not happy with his lack of interest and we can talk openly, but he says things will improve and that he loves me, he's very affectionate and loving.

JustAnotherOldMan
Yes we have my adult child living with us temporarily so that makes it tricky, but we had the same scenario last yet and it didn't stop him. Plus there are times when we have the house to ourselves during the day occasionally so I point out that we could use that time but he says he's not a 'during the day person ' which tbh is true...maybe I'm overthinking?

Apart from any other issues, watching porn makes people lazy. You can get sexual gratification without having to worry about anyone else's needs.

It may not mean there is anything wrong with relationship but if he starts to do what is one of the most intimate parts of a relationship on his own it is inevitably going to damage your relationship over time.

You need to find away to talk to him about it.

If he is saying things will improve sounds like he is struggling a bit with lockdown.
Sex does go both ways, can you take things in hand (no pun intended) and start the advances or are you being rejected?

Another thing could be that he’s watching some stuff that’s he’s too embarrassed/to share with you, maybe some of his fantasies?

Could just be a lockdown thing, boredom maybe. I do think 55 minutes is a long time to be on it but he might not have been able to find quite what he was looking for? I don't know, men and porn will forever baffle me. My OH watches it, always has and probably always will. Our sex life seems to be consistent and I'm satisfied so I try not to let it bother me too much anymore, it used to be a real problem for me but after many discussions and online forums I accept it now so long as I never have to feel like he's choosing it over the real deal.

Having a sex life with an adult DC at home can be very difficult.
Sometimes I look at porn for 30 to 60 minutes, get really turned on nd then masturbate. I’m a completely normal woman. This feels completely separate to my sex life with my DH, I can indulge in things I’m into. It’s only a problem if it was instead of sex with my DH.

I can spend a long time on a porn website looking for a video. Well I used to. I've stopped looking at it now.

I would be very upset as porn within a relationship is a deal breaker for me, however I respect that many women or couples are fine with it. Now about the time shown in the app, are you sure the 55 minutes refer to one single session? As I have an app that tells me how much time I spend on each app, and the figure is PER WEEK. (I know I don't spend TWENTY HOURS on whatsapp in just a day...😄)
Also I have heard occasionally from male friends that it can take them ages just to browse and find one video to watch, as there are hundreds of thousands and "most are crap" ( their words not mine!) . So the 55 min could be a weekly figure or browsing time. I am sorry he is doing this if your relationship is suffering, though. I know it's hard.