Any tips to increase your libido!?

[Dingdong99]

I'm just not really up for sex at the moment, haven't been for a while

I do it because I know it's good for your relationship and once we're at it, I do enjoy it. But I just can't really be arsed!!

We have two small kids and most evenings I'd be happy just to pass out!

Is there anything I can do to make me feel more up for it?

More sleep.

Catergory good point!

More sleep, less stress...dirty books?

Are you on hormonal contraception? Everything I tried killed my libido flat dead.

Pampering yourself so you feel good. Pampering could just mean a bath and shaving your legs really.

Same here! Breastfeeding so that really kills it for me.

The other night I found it helped to just get into bed naked and cuddle and watch tv together with no expectations. It soon led to something more and because the pressure was off I was much more up for it.

Maca Supplements can help..

I also use prescription testosterone ( female dose) and thats helping.

I am peri menopausal and also on HRT

Are you on the pill?
Are you breastfeeding?

These were the biggest libido killers for me! I've heard that antidepressants can be too. If your kids are very young it's normal to go off it for a bit but it'll come back.

I don't take the pill as it kills any libido I do have, and am not breast feeding

Oh I've heard of the Maca pills - anyone tried them?

A trick I learned to boost my libido when it was similar to yours where I enjoyed sex when it got going but just didn't thinks about it otherwise was to make an effort to masturbate but stop just before I came.

Keep doing this a few times over the next few days and you will fast find your libido comes racing back. It gets the blood pumping to where it needs to go and helps to remind you. You have to make the effort to do it initially which isn't always easy but this works. 😊

But please make sure you actually want to have sex at all though because duty sex is a miserable place to be.

I now have a testosterone implant once or twice a year along with my oestrogen implant (HRT) and it's amazing for feeling horny

Maca Root Capsules. I bought a 6 month supply of 3500mg from Amazon and I noticed a difference within a couple of weeks.

@mylovelydd

I now have a testosterone implant once or twice a year along with my oestrogen implant (HRT) and it's amazing for feeling horny

Yes this. Although you can have testosterone cream on private prescription rather than an implant too. Just thought I’d mention it.

@ihatethecold do you mind me asking how you went i out getting the prescription for testosterone? Are you in the UK?

Mylove - I'll give that a go, sounds promising!!

I've also ordered the maca tablets

How do you get the testosterone implant? I assume it's not put in just to give you a sex drive?

[quote Sacredspace]@ihatethecold do you mind me asking how you went i out getting the prescription for testosterone? Are you in the UK?[/quote]
You can have it prescribed via here and other private specialists -

www.newsonhealth.co.uk/consultations

Menopause matters website has a list of specialists on there.
I spoke to a consultant based in Cambridge.
I didn’t need to visit anywhere apart from a blood test to check my oestrogen levels.

once we're at it, I do enjoy it
Google "responsive desire", does that sound like how you feel, or not?

I had a friend who went to a sex therapist because of her low libido and was worried her husband was on the point of leaving her over it. No meds or hormone issues. Don't know what they discussed but her homework each week was to find time to have a "bath and a w@nk" (her exact words to me!). And she says it worked. Forced herself when wasn't in the mood, but alone, then her body and mind remembered how nice and worthwhile the feeling was then eventually wanted it with DH. About 5 years later all is well and they're very happy! Worth a go??

The thoughts of @mylovelydd sound very positive to me, although maybe at times let yourself go!