Conversations on WhatsApp

[november90]

Hi everyone I just wondered if somebody might be able to give me some advice. It's a little bit off topic but I just thought that someone on this thread might have been through something similar.
My ex has been emotionally abusive and controlling towards me particularly regarding our childcare. I communicate with him via WhatsApp. We used to communicate via email, however I do actually prefer the communication to be via WhatsApp as then I can see when he's read my message and know when he's ignoring me. Anyway, I have his chat muted because I don't want to be bothered so when he is contacting me, it just makes me feel a little bit more in control. However it does bother me that when I'm opening WhatsApp to message friends etc I can see when he sent me a message. Is there any way that I can hide his conversation or put it in some sort of folder on WhatsApp so that I don't have to see this and can open it at my own discretion and when I'm ready to read messages from him?
I hope this makes sense!

I’ve wished for this too and actually there isn’t. I archive and mute my ex but still when I open the app I see his chat.

Use KIK to communicate. Then block him on WhatsApp.

I've never heard of kik before?
If I archive the chat will it expire after a certain amount of time?

I have a sibling that intrudes on me. I've limited our communication to email so I don't see it immediately.

Do you really need to know whether he's seen your messages? If not, maybe consider moving it all to email?

I blocked whatsapp for this very reason and now only text.

Can you just straight away archive any new messages that appear from him and go to them when you are ready? You can also turn your online status off so he can't see wheb you have been last online

Sorry just seen someone else said to archive!!

I still only ever use email for ex for this reason.

Could you maybe email using read receipts? That of course would be dependent on him hitting 'yes' when he opens your email so might not be a viable option. Just a thought!

Archive the chat when he sends you a message it will come back to normal screen just archive again. It stays there as long as you want to.

Yes agree with archiving the chat and check when you want to see it.

Also turning off “last seen” will further anonymise you to him (I love this feature as it stresses me out knowing people can monitor me in this way if they wanted), but be aware this means you won’t see when anyone else was last seen either, so you can’t monitor either.

If you keep the blue ticks activated you’ll still be able to see when the message has been read, and if you click on the message, you can see what time it was read as well (even with last seen turned off)

Thanks all!
I just tested archiving the message with my mum and it pops back up when she messages me 😬
I will change my status, how do you do that 🙈