Next step

[Timlew]

Help xxxx
I'm not really sure where to start it what Im asking.
We have been married for 6 years, together for 13. Two lovely boys.
I have been fighting my feelings for at least 4 years, really questioning my love. I feel it has gone. I feel for my husband and care for him but like I would a brother.
There is zero passion. Its never been a big part of our relationship anyway but we have not even touched each other or cuddled for a few months now.
In the past we have had marriage councilling about his ocd with money and his anxiety. He has tried to look and act happier rather than a miserable old man.
These problems have got better but my feelings haven't.
I feel we are together for the children which I promised myself would never happen.
I know my husband would happily carry on plodding along like an old married couple forever. I don't want that.
My question is how do I bring this up?
Our communication is rock bottom, we chat about mundane day to day things but it feels forced.
I don't bother bringing up problems anymore as he has always got defensive and goes like a teenager and all defensive so there really is no point.
He works full time, I am a stay at home mum I sell products to raise a bit of pocket money but nothing major.
I'm unhappy but scared of the next step.
He's a good guy, I don't want to break his heart, but I'm breaking mine in the process .... Xxxx

You can only be honest,either way if u stay it will hurt you,if you leave it will hurt him,I feel for you xxx

If this is a medium term thing, I’d start by looking for work, becoming more independent financially, getting into a better position for separation. Only then would I ask for a separation.

@MeanMrMustardSeed

If this is a medium term thing, I’d start by looking for work, becoming more independent financially, getting into a better position for separation. Only then would I ask for a separation.

Yes I really want to get a job, I only finished work to be with children however husbands work is long hours and he may have to work weekends and evenings so he wouldn't be able to say no to it (wouldn't want to say no to it). As my money wouldn't cover the money he lost out on. Family aren't able to chikmind and my minimum wage John wouldn't cover childcare. Youngest starts full-time school in September so will have to wait till then. My business can bring in the money but depends on getting the clients and being self employed at the moment isn't great.