Should I send him something simple

[Melonmango]

Abit cringe but only been dating a few months. Most of it is on the phone due to lockdown. But we've found lots of ways to flirt and keep getting to know eachother. He lives local so we should be able to carry on meeting soon.

It's just he's sent me a couple of gifts.

Lush stuff

Perfume.

I am thinking I should send him something kinda simple but not too out there for valentine's. Perhaps his favourite sweets or something. But I just can't decide.

Anyone got any light ideas without pouring too much romance into it. We have exchanged the L word and we are wanting long term stuff together.

What would you do. Tia!

@FinallyHere

I don't do cards but usually send / give a small but lovely box of chocolates, just one op two chocolates so not too expensive.

Just to test him, though I would put done effort into separately sending him an anonymous card, just to see what he says about it. Does he mention in, boast about it. Useful info.

Get a friend or stranger to address it so he doesn't ever connect it to you.

Seriously, are you in high school?

Beribboned book??

HAHAHAHA. Never fails to secure a suitor.

Do people still do bears in adulthood?
Freaking hell. Please say no 😲

No anonymous cards & no bears op. Promise?

Beer
Man snacks
A pair of socks with hearts on
Silk boxers...maybe, depending on level of relationship
CD/vinyl...or a playlist?

@FeckTheMagicDragon Now I want a cheese hamper! Will have to buy it for myself though :D

OP definitely not an anonymous card, because I presume you are both adults. And definitely not a bear! I'm really not into valentines at all so I've always agreed with partners to just do cards, no gifts, and a meal out but not on V day itself.

If you're bubbled I would invite him round for dinner, cook something nice and get him to bring drinks and/or dessert. Shag FIRST, then cook. Every time I've said "Let's go out to dinner then have sex when we get home" I end up too tired/full to want sex, so now I always go by "Fuck first" and it's a lot more satisfying!

@FinallyHere

You wouldn't actually recommend the anonymous card test to a friend would you?!

If I found out someone I was seeing sent me an anonymous card to test if I told them I would dump them on the spot for being a fucking weirdo.

I would also be a bit freaked out by receiving an anonymous card to my home.

What a strange thing to suggest. I can only assume you're extremely new to relationships or haven't had one.

The bear is a lovely thought if you are year 7 or below. Otherwise it would send the message that you are a bit of a crackpot.

[quote EvenMoreFuriousVexation]@FeckTheMagicDragon Now I want a cheese hamper! Will have to buy it for myself though :D

OP definitely not an anonymous card, because I presume you are both adults. And definitely not a bear! I'm really not into valentines at all so I've always agreed with partners to just do cards, no gifts, and a meal out but not on V day itself.

If you're bubbled I would invite him round for dinner, cook something nice and get him to bring drinks and/or dessert. Shag FIRST, then cook. Every time I've said "Let's go out to dinner then have sex when we get home" I end up too tired/full to want sex, so now I always go by "Fuck first" and it's a lot more satisfying![/quote]
@EvenMoreFuriousVexation the best tip I’ve read on MN.

His favourite sweets in a jar

No bears!

Favourite sweets or chocs is fine.
An interesting book about something he's into could be good.
Or a small gift related to his hobbies. (Seeds for a gardener, meal kit for a home chef etc)

Do NOT send the bear!!

@XiCi

The bear is a lovely thought if you are year 7 or below. Otherwise it would send the message that you are a bit of a crackpot.

sending cards to test him..

Then you wonder why guys think women are mental..

how about dont send random cards to try and catch him out and just enjoy the friendship you have got with the guy, noone needs silly childish games.

hang on, you’ve said you love each other after a few months of mostly phone call dating?

@garlicwhorl

hang on, you’ve said you love each other after a few months of mostly phone call dating?

Not sure this is that weird. I’ve definitely told boyfriends in the past that I love them (and vice versa) after a couple of months. My parents got married after six months (yes obviously it wasn’t phone call dating)