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My toddler literally crying when I walk in the room, saying 'don't like mummy'

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JC2021 · 11/02/2021 08:43

He is (age 2yrs 4m) a very strong willed young man and has tested my patience more than once, I have got angry a couple of times where I have held him firmly and said 'stop that now' and had to leave the room and he screams, kicks, pulls my hair.

His dad has got angry but always walks off leaving me to deal with it.

This lockdown has meant nowhere to escape to, literally no time to myself (except evenings when DS sleeps)

His dad is very fun and plays with him a lot.. I do too but it's just different when your mum, I play in a different way to dad..

Has anyone experienced this?

My lie in this morning, I go downstairs they are both in the kitchen and my DS son throwing a tantrum as soon as I walk in shouting 'dada i don't like mummy' and crawls under the table..

so hurtful, i feel like crying.. i don't think my husband is helping - he is WFH and gets the best bits..

Sounds awful but i can't wait for him to start nursery aged 3.. I need space!!!

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EmmaJR1 · 11/02/2021 08:48

My daughter is 2y 7 months and when grandma looks after her even for 10 mins I get "I don't like mummy" "go back out" "I don't want you".

I think it's a stage. Also my husband tells me kids are only awful to the people they feel safest with. (He runs an SEMH school) so I take comfort from that.

Try to let it roll of you. But yes I CANT WAIT FOR NURSERY either!

apalledandshocked · 11/02/2021 08:52

I know this probably doesnt help but... It sounds like a phase. It will probably pass quicker if you dont react. When he does that what do you do at the moment? Get upset, leave the room, try to change his mind? I would just ignore the tantrum, (hes perfectly alright under the table) and get a cup of tea, then if/when he comes out greet him normally like the previous few minutes never happened. I am a big believer in ignoring tantrums generally so long as they arent hurting themseleves or others or breaking stuff (you ignore the tantrum not the child though)

But Calm, you should be calm at all times (I know its hard). And your DH needs to step up in taking part in the difficult bits of parenting, not just the fun bits!

SusannaSpider · 11/02/2021 08:52

It's a phase, albeit an awful one. Next month you will be flavour of the month and Dad will be the demon. Just grit your teeth and get on with it. You'll get whining that nursery is more fun than home next stage

smoothchange · 11/02/2021 08:56

DS son throwing a tantrum as soon as I walk in shouting 'dada i don't like mummy' and crawls under the table..

My immediate response to that would be to lie on the floor at his level, not too close, and use my overtly excited voice to encourage him to come and do something fun straight away, it will remove and bad feeling all round.

'Let's go and make a smoothie' type thing with a super exciting voice that makes it sound like the best fun ever.

Susanthepig · 11/02/2021 08:56

My toddler who will be 3 in spring is the same.
It’s happened more since her sibling was born 2 months ago.
She doesn’t go to bed very well either so I’m literally getting no time to myself and it’s driving me mad. I just keep telling myself, it’s just a phase.

Isitsixoclockalready · 11/02/2021 09:00

@JC2021