Ok so back story. A while ago I slept with a close friend when we were drunk. We left it there. He then told me a few weeks later he had feelings for me but I panicked and told him it wouldn't work as I was scared it would ruin our friendship group.
Since then a whole host of complications have occurred and he has been amazing and supportive throughout. My head was completely messed up during all this and I put it to the back of my mind. We then haven't spoken much until last week. He was drunk and telling me nothings changed for him he wishes it could be different but he respects my decision. Since then I can't stop thinking about it and whether I want us to be more or not.
But the complication being, the other day my friend (who doesn't know about any of this) mentioned in passing that friend had been on a walk date with someone from a dating app at the weekend.
The messages he sent were before this date but after it had been planned. Now I'm going over and over it in my head. On the one hand if it went well and he's in a good place, who am I to mess with that when I was the one whose held him at arms length all this time? But on the other hand what if it didn't go well, or if he still feels the same?
My heads a mess. Aside from all this he means a lot to me even as just a friend and I don't want to mess with him any more than I already have, and so the sensible side of me thinks I should just leave it now. But the other side thinks I might be making a big mistake in doing that.