Ex's mood constantly changing

[SallyAnn32]

Hi, I've posted previously about exh and his affair. He's been hot and cold for the entire year since we've split up. He goes from telling me that I'm the worst person ever, horrible to be with etc (even though he was always saying how amazing we were and we had a lovely life) totally rewriting history to justify his actions, to being nice as anything; can I go shopping for you, I want to give you a break from the kids (eldest dd has zero to do with him), I want to help, you're an incredible mum etc.

Who does he do this? Totally messes with my mind 🤯 he and ow aren't living together or even in the same town. So it's not like he's nice when she's not there.

Argh!!

@SallyAnn32

Same today - several missed calls. When I ask why did you can he said "can you send me screenshots" which I do but they're not good enough and keeps asking for more proof like the call log and recent phone number isn't enough. It's sending me totally dollally with these accusations 🤯

Why did you call

Because he is a psychopath op. Or similar cluster b personality. He is mentally disordered and that's what his kind do - try to drive you crazy.

Dont think of him as having the same reasoning as you, think if him as a playground bully. Sometimes his mind might be on other things...but mostly, he wants to destroy people. Mostly you.

Another day of 2 personalities by ex. Today decided not to see dd2 and then blamed the reason on me.

Flipping done with it!

Stop engaging with him.

If contact is fixed block him the rest of the time. If it isn't time to make it fixed.

He is using you to play games so drop the rope and stop responding to anything.

@RandomMess

Stop engaging with him.

If contact is fixed block him the rest of the time. If it isn't time to make it fixed.

He is using you to play games so drop the rope and stop responding to anything.

Yes it's fixed contact but he chops and changes whenever it suits. It's infuriating.

I blocked his email today because he was being a nob about the finances and divorce.

Yesterday he was all pitiful and making me feel guilty and today I'm the enemy again.

If you block a number past messages sent when blocked won't come through when I unblock (when he has our daughter) will they?

He is an ex for a reason. You are allowing him to mess with your head, only you can control who you do and don’t have in your life. He fucked up and you need to let it go, unfortunately it is definitely easier said than done but you need to cut all forms of contact .

If contact is fixed then it doesn't chop and change. If he doesn't turn up as per the fixed agreement then he misses it.

If he took you to court for contact it would be fixed.

@RandomMess

If contact is fixed then it doesn't chop and change. If he doesn't turn up as per the fixed agreement then he misses it.

If he took you to court for contact it would be fixed.

I've contacted my solicitor about it this morning. It's not on. I can't just choose when I have the children.

His mood swings affect mood because I'm thinking he's coming back, he's not. I need to cut all contact like you say and revisit my counsellor.

I wish I knew years ago what I know now 🤯

You don't need to contact your solicitor you just email or message him and state as agreed contact is x y z if you aren't coming let me know but I won't be rearranging to suit you. If you aren't happy with that then you will need to take it to court.

Save yourself some £.

@RandomMess

You don't need to contact your solicitor you just email or message him and state as agreed contact is x y z if you aren't coming let me know but I won't be rearranging to suit you. If you aren't happy with that then you will need to take it to court.

Save yourself some £.

Thank you x