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Is this ok

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Isthisnom · 10/02/2021 10:28

I need some help, I’m not sure whether I’m over reacting or whether this is not ok.

My DP is a lovely kind person and would be horrified if he thought he had hurt me.

I have a background of childhood sexual abuse which he is aware of but we have never discussed in any detail.

I have a low sex drive and we do not dtd very often. The other day he had wanted to and I had said I was too tired but would look forward to it another night. He repeatedly kept asking me and saying just give me a cuddle, just come here he also tried to physically pull me towards him. I kept saying no, I’m too tired albeit in a laughing kind of way.

Eventually to shut him up and went to give him a cuddle and just lay there while he made some moves. He then said we didn’t have to but by that point I felt like I just needed to get it over with, I had already said lots of times before I didn’t want to and he had persisted.

Am I over reacting? Should I just have continued to say no or was this unacceptable of him?

OP posts:
AnneLovesGilbert · 10/02/2021 10:29

It’s not okay.

Rockinmomma · 10/02/2021 10:39

It’s not ok OP, he coerced you, he knew you didn’t want to but did it anyway
This shows complete disrespect for you, your body and your boundaries
I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I did too with ExH and it very quickly made me lose any affection for him
How do you feel about the relationship long term?
If you love him and want to make it work you have got to talk to him, TELL HIM what he has done and how unacceptable it is. TELL HIM no means no! It does not mean keep fucking trying to get your dick wet

Itstimetoquit · 10/02/2021 11:16

Oh no this is not ok x

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