Sex Quandry-When you have sex with your dh.......

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Is it because you really want to have sex with him , or is it just because you are feeling the urge, and he happens to be willing and able. But to be honest, the builder with his shirt off down the road would probably do just as well, thanks very much?

So , I think I'm asking, do you still fancy your husband?

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I don't think I could even begin to imagine having sex with someone other than dh, he is the only man for me and I don't want anybody else.

And this still holds true even when our sex-life is not that good.

Oh dear! Dior, thats not good, you poor thing. Needless to say, not what I was hoping to read either!

I definitely still fancy my husband in that he gives me butterflies. We've only been married 8 years but I love him in a way I couldn't have imagined 8 years ago. Sex gets better and better as the years go by and long may that continue. And I wouldn't do the builder.

i do fancy him and cant imagine being with anyone else in my life......but i have to say it was the urge the last few times

Same as RomanCandles.
If you don't want your husband, why are you together. (Not asking, just a statement)

Both. Definitely. And we know this and joke about it.

Tasja , I am in the process of thinking a lot of things through about my relationship with my dh, and am wondering whether I even want my mojo back. Its all too much like hard work!!

My builder is in his 70s urgh

Definitely both, but not always at the same time. Sometimes one of us just has the urge, sometimes it's part of being all snuggly and loving. Mind you, sometimes one of us really can't be bothered, either .. too tired, too pissed, too pissed off!

It happens both ways doesn't it?

hmmm it goes through phases in a relationship I think, for the first few years I was mad for him, then for a couple of years I wasn't in the least bit interested in sex at all and if I was it could have been with anyone and now it's gone full circle and I.m mad for him again. I really hope it stays that way too

Only been with dh for 2.5 years but had the urge/fancing come and go. some days i fancy him, (still not interested much in having sex 28 weeks prego with ds2) then others i think when did i marry this fat, bald, old guy. (hes only 31 and im 23)
i do find i tend to just be get it over with (5 mins is nothing compared to the begging time if i didnt.)
however he is the only man for me and i have honestly not thought about another man in that way since being with him, i think i'd be sad if i did...

I have sex with my husband because every so often he persuades me that it would be good for our relationship if we did it, (and especially that a blow job would make us feel much closer!). I comply because he's probably right, although I only start to enjoy it when it's nearly over. I can;t remember the last time I actually enjoyed sex.
It's quite sad really, but not the end of the world!

joking about the blow job btw, although he does try that line, I don't often bother

Sometimes both, but when I have the 'urge' its always to have sex with him not just anyone iyswim. I fancy the arse off DP but tbh I probably need to tell him and show him that a little more

.....in answer to your question yes i do still fancy my DP, very much so

I hope that things work out for you and that you find your mojo (if you want to that is!)

Because I want sex with him, he still makes me tingle when he walks in a room and can give me a look that makes me melt

Normally the urge, but find him attractive as well. Though also find other people attractive - the builder may be not...the kitchen fitter..now thats another story...though would never actually do anything ofcourse!

perfectday- so my dh is not the only one to use the blow job line... it drives me nuts if im going to do anything i want something (hopefully) out of it plus blow jobs always seem to take for ever.