Family fallen out because i split

[Kg19]

I eventually got up the courage to tell my husband i didnt want to be with him.anymore and i wanted to seperate on Friday. My mum and brother have been a nightmare since today they cornered me and were like what if he has depressions u say this about him and that have u got soemone else which i dont, dont think uve been very fair to husband blah blah. U never gave him a chance to fix things is what they have said
Its almost like my feelings totally do not matter ive been thinking about this since at least August but yet im the arsehole for wanting to be happy for a change and putting my own needs first and being selfish.

Has anyone else had this. My mums practically refused to babysit i was staying there for a few days but my bro and his wife are too as my dads in hosp so ive been on a floor. But now i cant stay there my husbands mum has said he cant stay with her, i dont really want to be in the house with ex as its awkward but the plan is i keep thd hpuse as its a let and i can afford it. Stayed at a hotel last night but cant keep paying for hotels

Will they come round in time ?
Any other post split pointers ?

Yes, they probably will.

Leave them to it, and concentrate on setting yourself up in your new life. What is your long term plan for where you will live?

You can't really expect your parents to have you at the drop of hat when their house if full, and utterly outrageous to even ask STBX's parents. So time to stand on your own feet. As you've been a while in making this decision, what practical admin plans have you been working on?

I hope they do come round but are they right? Did you raise your concerns with him, give him opportunities to fix whatever the problem was? I only ask because many pp on here, including me, had their marriages pulled out from under them with no warning or input and it feels deeply unfair. If you've been working this out for a while, you need to bear in mind that to everyone else this is a shock.

I plan on keeping the house we are in thats what we agreed, as he couldnt afford to keep it on. I didnt expect them to drop everything but my mum knew i had been thinking on it for a while and said i could stay. He said he will sort somewherr to go but im not sure when that will be.
I did i tried to work on things for months rsther than say all my gripes at once id mention one or 2 things a week and had a practical crying session saying i cant do this anymore. So i have spoken to him before i made the decision. I just dont feel the love between us anymore. I get that it might have been a shock to him but he did say i knew u werent happy and something wasnt right.

I can stand on my own 2 feet once everyone lets me