How do people cope with suspected personality disorder within the family?

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I suspect my sister has a personality disorder on the group B spectrum.

For a few years she took situations out of context and jumped to worst possible conclusions that weren't true. Her emotions are intense and dramatic. She's done that to me and tlout other siblings. We all took a step back from the drama because we can't handle the drama. For a few years we've all been on the receiving end of revenge. It looks like she wants us all to fix her and fix her happiness and own our parts in her narratives of the situations, a lot of it is not true. Like she wants me to explain myself to her as to why I'm jealous of her. That was some of the messages I got from her. I'm not jealous of her and I can't explain that and if she believes I'm jealous of her so be it. I really had to take a step back from that as do the rest of our siblings. She's very a hostile person. We don't have time for the drama.

I do suspect that there is something going on. All of this, has been long term. It's not only against the family although we probably received the brunt of a lot of it. She doesn't get on with other people like with her colleagues and she'll go through jobs. Her house shares too. Everyone in her life is the one with the problem in her view and not her. she won't ever look at herself and her own hostility.

Basically going through a very hard time from her. She's not in our lifes any more. She's doesn't bear a presence physically in our lifes any more and it's been a few years since we've seen her but she won't stop pushing herself back onto the family by electronic means. Basically emails. Fakes accounts. Contacting other people and anyone associated with us and basically shaming us and dumping shit to all and sundry.

Exactly what you've done...distanced and distanced until we don't see them anymore (relatively easy as there is a 2+hr drive between us). Ours isn't as extreme though - so still have phone numbers - contact is pretty much limited to a happy birthday text and haven't seen them for 5+ years now.

I would imagine that the people she is contacting in an attempt to shame you will see through it all soon enough if they haven't already.

I'm not sure what else you can do other than have very little to do with them?

Are your parents around? I ask because in our case they played a definite role...

I haven't seen the woman is years and I'm happy not to have her in my life. She's someone who can't see beyond themselves and I don't have room in my life for that type of selfishness. The hostility and words of pure hatred from her is incredible. She hated us all and according to her we are dead to her but all her focus in life is on the family who are supposed to be dead to her.

My father is gone. Our mother is alive. The sister estranged herself from our mother too and our mother got a dose from her. There was an episode from my sister where she message bombed our mother's phone. The mother had to take a step back from her. The situation is still the same. The sister was overly emotional about a photoframe and made so much drama over a complete non issue. Our mother had to take a step back from all that. My sister is not happy with that. She wants us all have our lifes revolve around her and her feelings. Nothing else matters in this world to my sister expect for her feelings. Nobody else's feelings come into it. Just hers.

Our mother isn't driving this or supporting her.

It sounds as though you have all cut ties with her op so why not just block her?

If she does have a personality disorder, she will struggle to change her behaviour so is sadly unlikely to change, particularly as she thinks the problem lies solely with other people.