Controlling husband

[Littlepeetree]

Currently in the middle of leaving my controlling husband. I was the breadwinner and he took control of my bank account and would not let me access it, he would give me an allowance of 600 a month and I have since learned he has taken 93k from my account since January 2021. We did not live a lavish lifestyle and he says our outgoings were 5k a month. He is refusing to give full financial disclosure with his bank statements but took the time to do a spreadsheet to explain where the money went. Why wont he give bank statements to the lawyer and is saying how dare I go through lawyers etc.... what the fuck is going on amd where do you think the moneys gone?

*Since jan 2020 i mean

Was this a joint account or your personal account in your sole name? Do you have joint finances? Why did you not open a new account and get your salary paid into that? Nearly £100k in a year? What did he spend it on?! Sorry a lot of questions but your OP didn't give much detail or background so it is hard to advise you. You need to work out your average family expenses plus reasonable disposable income and savings per month and see if it matches up with his accounting. This is why you should never absolve yourself of financial responsibility in a family..

Christ OP... this is shocking

How did he take control of your bank account? Why didn't you contact the bank to stop this?

You need a very good lawyer and a forensic accountant. Talk to the bank. How on earth did he get control of your account without your authority?
We have a joint account, but we both had to sign paperwork to get both names on it.
I am so sorry you are going through this. It sounds horrific.

How could he have control of your account unless you let him? £100k gone you should call police. Has he stolen it from you without your knowledge?