Me and my big mouth

[Fonzie]

Have just spent afternoon with DS's toddler group -there are only 4 mums. Anyway, one mum started up about potty training and I innocently passed comment that I'd heard another Mum in another group say that even though her DS couldn't tell them when he needed the loo, they were keeping at it. Whereupon, I then said that I couldn't see how that works. It was at that point that I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me as the other Mum in the company was obviously experiencing things in the same vein. How can I apologise for offending her, if I have? Any advice greatfully received as I'm really beating myself up about this.

How about asking her how the potty training's going next time you see her, and making a remark about what a nightmare it is etc.? Then say you hope etc...

One of those embarrassing situations, eh?

Caligula, you are so right. I've been beating myself up loads lately (long story) and even got to the point at the weekend where I was unable to differentiate between what I said in RL and what I said in my dreams. I phoned person concerned to find out! Thankfully she is a good friend and just laughed when I explained. Although today she did ask if I wanted clarification re RL or dreams this time round!

It is perfectly possible to potty train even if a child can't tell you they want to go (sorry Gina- isn't that one of her criteria?). Ended up doing it with my non verbal autistic child (actually he could have told us using symbols if he'd wanted to- but didn't start to tell us until after he was trained iyswim). I helf odd triaing for quite a while trying to sort out teaching him to tell us. In fact I should have treated them as 2 different things- once he knew what the toilet was about then he could work on letting us know.

Sounds like you've sorted it out- and I don't really think anyone could be that offended by your comment- but you culd always say next time you see her- "oh I've met someone who did train without her son being able to tel her blah blah blah".