Best online dating site for me?

[10YellowTulips]

I’m in my mid 40s and a single mum. Have tried the dating apps like tinder and bumble before but didn’t really get very far. Just a string of unsuccessful dates or guys who were clearly not actually single. Wasn’t easy going on dates because I don’t have much childcare. I also don’t think I was really ready for a new relationship because my previous one was abusive.

So took a break from it and haven’t been on any sites for a couple of years. Now I’m feeling like I want to try again but feeling nervous. I’ve put on weight so not confident about my looks and not getting younger either! But I’m fed up of being alone and would like to try again and hopefully meet someone for a relationship. What sites are best to try? Does it help to pay?

You could try Match? Although most of the men on there are already on Bumble and/or Tinder but I think the fact they have paid to be on Match shows they're serious about dating. I did them all, , and met by DP on POF. Good luck!

I hear people say that bumble is a hook up site, not sure about that as my friend got married last year to a guy from bumble and they are both happy.
Hinge is for more serious relationships, but you just have to see how it works for you. I would also recommend working on your self confidence as it could be tough on OLD. People ghost you from out of the blue when you think it’s going well. So if you don’t have a good grip on your confidence that could be an issue.

I don't really think there's one better than others. The same people are generally on a few. You have to wade through the crap because there are decent men out there. I don't agree with paying I once dated a guy who paid for one of the dating websites because he felt superior to the ones on the free sites🙄 yet he met me on POF😂

This will probably be a really unpopular response but, if the weight gain is a recent or lockdown related, I would do something about that and get myself in a better place confidence wise before even thinking about online dating.

Tbh, OLD is not something I'd even consider - I know very few people in real life who've had a successful relationship from it.

Most women feel they're dredging through the dregs of men who are single for a reason. You need to be confident when you do it so that you can withstand the rejection and the nonsense and just see it as a bit of fun. Then, if you are one of the few who does meet the elusive decent man that way, you are equally someone he would choose to be with.