Should I separate?

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I've been married for 12 years and together with DH for 14. 2 kids 9 and 7. The past 5 years have been bumpy. 3 years ago I was very upset about the state of our marriage. Largely sexless, friends but no intimacy, no sex, cuddles or touch. I decided the children needed both parents and a stable life. Lockdown has highlighted things even more and at the age of 46 I don't think I can go on like this. I am very lonely in my marriage but there is nothing terrible going on. I don't want to blow up my children's lives - they love their Daddy so much. There have been issues with him working, I work full time, DH doesn't at the moment because his industry has been hit badly because of the pandemic. I do much of the housework but he does do chores and is great with the kids. I just feel invisible as an individual. The no intimacy has chipped away at my confidence and I just need to fel loved..Has anyone else ended a marriage like this? Any advice?

I'd say , don't be unhappy. The children can still see him. Life's too short.

Life is to short. You don't want to wake up at 56 thinking why the fuck am I still her

Has anyone else left a marriage for these reasons? Is it enough to leave?

Do you think he would agree to counselling? It may be worth a go before you make any decisions re the future.

Of course its enough to leave? Not wanting to stay in a marriage is good enough reason to not stay in a marriage.

Remember your marriage is your children’s primary relationship role model. If your marriage isn’t something you’d want for your children, then don’t model it.

You’re hiding in an unfulfilling marriage because you lack the confidence to take control of your happiness. You can’t change a situation if you won’t acknowledge it.

AgentJohnson I'm not sure your children’s primary relationship role model includes frequency and intimate details of their parents sex life.