Hello everyone, I'm a mum to 4 and have been married nearly 17 years. I am 34 and marries really young at 18. My DH was awful and physically abusive as well as emotionally. Things got a little better as in he stopped physically abusing me but still mentally tortured me and the emotional abuse too. Anyway today he got me across my face really hard twice Infront of me eldest dd 14. He's generally a dad but has an awful temper and he goes 0-100 in a split second with any of us. Regularly to the eldest dd too. That's what happened today and I tried to intervene. He totally lost it. He sits there telling her lies about me abs now everytime he argues with mr he keeps calling the dc down to see and hear it as he knows it will annoy me. I don't then respond abs he says awful lies about me. The dc get terrified. But on a daily basis they love him he plays it's them and spends time with them too it he's too hard on them and expects too much.
Anyway long story short I've decided I want to separate, I stopped working after I had my youngest dc 3. We own our house and now he's insisting we sell it and I leave with the children. I don't have a job the money I'll get from the house is close to 100k I assume. Where will I go? How will I do this? I live in London so obviously won't be able to afford to buy a place here, I really want to get my own place and settle my dc. I need to find work. I don't have any qualifications either. I'd love to be able to train and make money for the dc. Someone please help. What shall I do? I need to leave this toxic reactionahip, he just never realised his mistake, it's always someone else's fault for triggering his reaction and I've had enough.
Sorry for the long post