Do men lie about sexless marriages?

[Partygirl2021]

In order to have an affair? I have been offered to be a bit on the side since becoming single last year. I am not interested in any married men (or in relationships) but have been shocked at the few men who have basically told me they aren’t having sex with their SOs and since I’m recently out of a horrible marriage they assume I would only be looking for casual fun (not true). Are they lying about not having sex with their wives to make me fall into a trap?

Also, he managed to come see me Christmas day because he "went missing". After the DC was in bed (and he text me to say he was on his way) he broke down crying to her and said he needed to go for a drive to clear his head. He then drove to my house. Where he spent the next 4 hours. She was out of her mind with worry and thought he had done something stupid. He told her he drove round for hours and just needed to be alone.

Might as well ask if bears shit in the woods.

There are morals in life. Never have sex with a married man. It's as simple as that. Find someone who is available and doesn't have the complications. It's really easy,
Married men aren't always honest...so, live by the above rule

Yes, they lie about everything.

Of course they do

@Partygirl2021

Surely if they were having sex with their wives they wouldn’t be seeking an affair though? I am so confused and hurt by these men thinking I would be up for being their bit on the side. Shocked that it was more than one as well

Errr or they just want as much as they can get, regardless of whether it's from their wife or any other poor bugger that believes their 'she doesn't understand me' shit!

All affairs are based on lies. If you want to have sex with a married man that’s fine if you accept the potential consequences. Think it through, if you just want physical relationship and can remain emotionally detached as men do then fine.
Are you going to become a social pariah if everyone finds out?
What will your family/children think?
Will your friends ever trust you around their husbands?
It’s never just a mutual coming together of bodies. It’s not like a normal relationship. There will always be a third person.
Men can’t help but lie when sex is on offer, they are not lying to justify it to you but to justify it to themselves and assuage the guilt.

I've had a dp who I was with for a long time and eventually we stopped having sex..we just fell out of love..we stayed together for a year after that but neither of us had an affair or even tried...we eventually split up and are still friends.
I also have an ex dp with whom I had great sex, lots of it, he still tried it on with every living breathing woman he could find and told all of them we hadn't slept together in a year ( I know because I heard him say it to one and also found many many messages and he was on tinder and pof) in all fairness I wasn't even shocked as he was a selfish prat in many other respects bit honestly my self esteem was so shit that I stayed longer than I should have.

I think you're asking the wrong question.

Peddle back a bit and you'll find yourself asking the question, 'should he really be talking to me about his sex life with his wife?'.

Beyond the confines of the therapy room - and talking to his own wife, of course - I would suggest that no decent man would ever talk to anyone about the details of his sex life.

On another note, it shouldn't matter if they're having sex or not! If they're in a relationship whether that's for the kods or financial reasons then they shouldn't be looking around..either split up first or just accept the choice that you've made.

Some men are in a sexless marriage because their wife knows they are a sneaky distrustful arse- viscious circle!!

I've just thought about my dfriend who was in a loveless marriage staying because her dh refused to divorce her.. she would proposition men and tell them she hadn't had sex in years which was true apart from the time that she was actively trying for a baby with her dh because she said she didn't want children from different fathers. She still maintained that she was split up, when she did get pregnant she stopped talking to other men but as soon as the baby was about 2 she started again!
Some people are just messed up! Don't believe everything you hear

*Men are snakes. They are exceptions of course, but generally slimy slimy snakes” 🐍

^We know that’s unfair to say and even untrue. And lots of horrible women in the world too. But I still laughed!

It doesn't matter if they are having sex though- did you see that thread recently on here? Some bloke who was complaining his girlfriend only initiated "boring" sex twice a week and he was going on as though he was some sex-starved, unloved, unappreciated victim because he thought she should be initiating exciting sex every day (!), arranging kinky weekends and dressing up in lingerie (even though he drip fed later she'd actually previously been raped and didn't even climax during their twice weekly events!). I felt very sorry for the girlfriend in that situation, yet people were falling over themselves to reassure the chap that of course he wasn't unreasonable and of course girlfriends should be willing to swing from the chandeliers every night, even when they don't get any pleasure from it! Not hard to see how people can twist things and find others to pander to their nonsense. Also goes to show that having regular sex can mean nothing! So yes, I absolutely think men lie/exaggerate/twist things to get what they want.

@EpochTime

I think you're asking the wrong question.

Peddle back a bit and you'll find yourself asking the question, 'should he really be talking to me about his sex life with his wife?'.

Beyond the confines of the therapy room - and talking to his own wife, of course - I would suggest that no decent man would ever talk to anyone about the details of his sex life.

Excellent point.

I didnt have sex with my exH for the last 5+ years we were together. Disclaimer: Slightly different in that he had a prostate op which caused nerve damage which meant he could no longer get a full erection. He just said right, thats it we're not even trying to do it again, ever, no point (from his own pov, naturally, but tbh, he'd never really satisfied me anyway and wasnt very adventurous). Not even any foreplay or oral . So it can happen.

Men lie about this? In other news, it rains in Manchester from time to time.

Some are probably having sex with their partner still, some are probably not and in a dead relationship but too cowardly to leave.

Of course some men who say that are lying. But some aren't. There are enough threads here to show that. But is that really the point?

@Ithinkhedidit

It doesn't matter if they are having sex though- did you see that thread recently on here? Some bloke who was complaining his girlfriend only initiated "boring" sex twice a week and he was going on as though he was some sex-starved, unloved, unappreciated victim because he thought she should be initiating exciting sex every day (!), arranging kinky weekends and dressing up in lingerie (even though he drip fed later she'd actually previously been raped and didn't even climax during their twice weekly events!). I felt very sorry for the girlfriend in that situation, yet people were falling over themselves to reassure the chap that of course he wasn't unreasonable and of course girlfriends should be willing to swing from the chandeliers every night, even when they don't get any pleasure from it! Not hard to see how people can twist things and find others to pander to their nonsense. Also goes to show that having regular sex can mean nothing! So yes, I absolutely think men lie/exaggerate/twist things to get what they want.

That thread was out of this world crazy! I couldn’t believe what i was reading.

And it only kept getting worse and worse.