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Separation and Children

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Sealifeescape · 05/02/2021 18:24

Not sure if this is the right area to post but I’m just after advice. My ex and I split in November. We've got 5 children. We split previously and got back together. Ex was holding into hope I would get back with him but I’ve been very clear this time that we will not be and I’m seeing someone else casually.

Ex was never the most involved of parents when we were together. When we split he saw them part of the weekend and two nights in the week. My friend kept telling me he was only doing it to see me - at drop off and pick up.

After a couple of weeks of low contact from me to him and me not being there at drop offs, suddenly since last week he hasn't arranged to have them last weekend and isn’t having them this week or next.

I suppose what I’m trying to ask is how do you cope when you see your ex start to distance himself from the children especially when the children want to see him. How do I cope knowing by me cutting ties he has reduced contact with them? It makes me feel terribly guilty.

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Ardvark111 · 05/02/2021 18:31

Maybe he feeling hurt still over break up and that you have moved on, the fact he not engaging with his children is sad but ultimately his call / decision is it possible for kids to have indirect contact with him in meantime with / without your input.,?

Ardvark111 · 05/02/2021 19:56

Sorry I forgot to add that if indirect contact happens at least that way he has to / can explain his excuses not to spend time with your children

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