Boyfriend only meets weekends that suit him. Am I being pretty by saying no for tomorrow?

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We're together 5 years, live 45 minutes apart. We see each other on weekends but not every weekend. I'm nearly always available. Recently we didn't meet up for two weekends at his instigation, one reason being it was raining and there's nothing to do anyway at the moment. I mostly go to his. Now he wants a sleepover tomorrow. I've said sorry, I'm not available, I'm meeting my older sister for a walk, which I am, but will be available Sunday to meet him. I'm just not willing to jump at this weekend because he's on for meeting. Is this understandable?

He sounds uninvested and boring af.
I'd be telling him you're busy washing your hair...permanently.

It's not solving the problem though, tell him how you feel. Seems he's happy with a more casual relationship, after 5 years and it's like this? Are you not wanting more than a sometimes weekend boyfriend? He can hardly manage that! I expect he's missing sex but not you.

Looking for a sanity check really! Me and DP live about 30 mins drive apart. Been together less than a year all was going well. Very intense and passionate, driving for brief meets in between respective family duties. Then strict lockdown after Xmas and all seems to have changed from DPs behaviour and where I am on list of priorities. DP job massively impacted by lockdown and is working long hours including every night and also at weekends. Have to be transparent about that change to be fair. Daily calls are long gone. Maybe once a week if I'm lucky. Sounds like DP is too busy and tired right, and that's it?However, when I think there is a window in an evening to have a nice long call, it gets cancelled as a friend has asked for a catch up with DP. Friends that weren't spoken about in the early months when we were unable NOT to speak to each other every night and see each other 3 times a week. Now I'm getting bumped for them. I'm feeling sidelined, and not understanding why. Feeling very insecure about it, but hiding that from DP. Am I being taken for a mug? Should i share my real feelings with DP?

@FlowersOfAldershot Probably would get more help if you started your own thread but I'll answer here anyway.

He's ended it with you but has been too cowardly to actually say it. He's avoiding you hoping you get the hint. Sorry.

Woops I thought I had started my own thread, sorry. New to this site. Can I copy it and delete it from this thread?? Apologies OP!

A sleepover?

But last weekend he didnt see you because it was raining?