Why is it so hard to do...

[mumof1x]

For about the last 2 years I’ve been thinking about splitting with my partner. We rent a house together and have a child.

We used to discuss mortgages and a future but it’s rarely mentioned now, which suits me as I personally don’t see us going a family holiday, buying a house or getting married.

I have previously posted here before about being unhappy, etc. But my main question today is why is it so hard to say I’m not happy and feel I’d be happier on my own? I feel like it will come out of the blue but at the same time, how has he not noticed how unhappy I’ve been and if he has noticed, why has he never questioned me about it.

Bit of a vague post but I feel like I just block everything out now.

He may not notice your unhappiness, or he may but doesn't want to deal with it. Whatever the case, you've wasted enough time, don't you think? Life is far too short to be unhappy in a relationship. It's not fair to you, and it's not fair to him.

I think some people believe that a lot of couples are unhappy and you just have to put up with it. It's a really odd way to live if you don't believe that!

for the longest my ex was happy so he never "noticed" that i was unhappy. not til the end when i admittedly became bitchy to him due to my unhappiness. so sometimes if one partner is happy they are blinded by their own happiness to see thru to their partner's true feelings.

also some people do not like to bring it up because they are happy with the status quo for whatever reason and dont really care how their partner feels at the time.