*TW - Reported the guy who assaulted me to Tinder..

[melononapear]

Recently signed up to tinder, mainly because it's the easiest one! Only been on there a day and very basic profile as I'm just browsing at the moment.

My rapist came up on there. Makes sense really as I met him on there, but it was over a year ago and I blocked him straight after the incident. I've reported him to tinder but have never said anything to anyone else. To be honest I'm too ashamed and didn't think anything would happen if I did. I've been raped before and the case didn't even go to court due to lack of evidence.

I'm shaking and feel sick now. I'd actually forgotten what he looked like in the face and now it's all come rushing back. Feel like I want to get out of the house and run. Why is this happening now so long after?! Did I do the right thing? Tinder sent me a link to support services but now I'm totally second guessing myself and whether I should have said anything. I just don't want him to do it to anyone else.

The thing is, I don't even know his last name. I don't know if his name really was 'X' (what he told me it was). I don't remember his address, only the rough area.

What would I say to police? 'Oh a guy off tinder raped me but I don't know his full/real name or where he lives'. Is it even possible to 'log' something with the police without pressing charges?

I've been raped before and I did report him. He was arrested and charged but it never went to court as the CPS threw it out due to lack of evidence. The same thing will happen again this time except this time I will have to be filmed telling strangers that he slapped me, spat on me and called me a dirty cunt, and much more. I'd have to tell them all the details. It'll be the second time reporting so I'll just look like someone who cries rape.

Just want to say sorry you went through that, and that you had to see his horrid face again 😢
I agree with others that suggest reporting it to police as it could add to a profile on him, but most importantly now look after yourself -
Best wishes

You dont have to report it to the police and you really dont need to justify your reasons for not wanting to.
Im sorry op, he is a disgusting piece of shit rapist bastard.
I believe you x

I'm so so sorry OP. What an absolutely horrific experience. You deal with it in whatever way you can or want to.

Ah, OP, sending you a hug. Thank you for reporting it - hopefully that in its own way helps you feel like you've gotten back some of the power he took away. I'm not sure what the apps do with complaints such as this, but my impression is they would just block the user. But if it means you don't have to see his face again, that's done its job.