Just had a go at dp and now i feel awful

[nutcracker]

Don't really know why i had a go at him either, hew just rubbed me up the wrong way, but he really didn't deserve it (for a change) and now i feel awful as he looks so shocked and hurt really.

It was all about what to do for tea, he turned his nose up at what i was gonna do so i told him to do his own e.t.c. e.t.c. and really ripped into him.

We aren't talking now.
We were having probs anyway and just recently i began to think that maybe i'm a bigger part of the prob than i thought i was.

Honestly i couold cry sat here looking at how miserable he is.

I must be really self centred and nasty cos i never considered that he might be unhappy too and that it's probably my fault.

Nutty, if you really think you were in the wrong for once, then why not say sorry?

And can you get fish and chips for tea, to heal the rift?

agree with easy

Nutcracker, you're not nasty - the fact that you care about it and are posting here to say so shows that you're not self-centred.

Just go and apologise. Tell him you're really sorry and want to make up. And that you'd like to sort out the rows you've been having, and realise that some of them might be your fault.

Do you have time tonight to sit down and have a takeaway, a bottle of wine together, and a proper talk?

I will once the kids are in bed, apologise that is.

Could just eat fish and chips so may suggest that.

I really am a bigger cow than i thought i was.

Nutty, you're not a cow! You're lovely. But relationships take two to work, so maybe it's time to do some serious talking to make it work. (Hark at me, who's crap at talking, but sometimes it's just got to be done!). Love xxx

Can I just suggest .....?

If you had a go at him in front of the kids, why not apologies in front of them too? sets a good example you know.....

Mind you, you can make it a proper apology without them I suppose

I would Easy but they are all engrossed in simpsons (dp incleded) and it's the first bit of peace i've had all day.

Thanks PG, you are right i know.

I have apologised and he has gone the chippy

Aw nutty - the only time you need to worry is when you have a go at dp and DONT feel awful!!

Hope you enjoyed your chips.

Hey, we are all human. Besides, you have alot to deal with at the moment. No wonder you snapped. Stop kicking yourself and take a deep breath.... you are not a cow, you are human. If you make a mistake, or go over board occassionally, then it only makes you more human.

Hope the apology went ok...