Exh very mad over my new relationship

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Please explain this . My fucker of an exh had an affair and took off with his new woman . If he hadn't left I would have kicked him to the kerb . He was always a useless husband and father ... a load off , truth be told.
A year after the split, I met my current boyfriend and six months on, everything is going very very well.
However, my exh has found out and is not happy. In fact he is mad as hell but tried to hide it . Barbed comments and an over interest in My plans when he has kids with a contorted face is enough to tell me. Awkward and difficult when trying to plan.He has passed plenty of shitty comments. I ignore or tell him to mind his own.
Could someone explain this? It
Makes no sense .
No residual feelings here . He has done
Me a massive favour .

At a guess I would say his relationship isn’t going well and he’s pissed your is!!

He's been replaced and lost any control he thought he had. Ignore the fuckwit.

I don't know why but a lot of men are like this. I guess the abusive men look upon women as their "possessions" even after they've split.

Also, I agree with poster above, probably his relationship is shit. Think about it, if everything is going well in your life do you even care about whats happening in others?

And that's just what men fear, their inability to be able to waltz back if it doesn't work out with the ow.

Good for you.

Indicates you have moved on.

He feels "rejected"

All ok if he thought you were lonely and miserable but you're not. Or he's a bit threatened you have someone in your corner. You are stronger if you are happier.

Oh dear he needs to build a bridge and get over it.

Who cares what he thinks/feels.

Keep contact minimum, written only, text/email. Only essential regarding children contact. He needs no further communication or details.

@frozendaisy is spot on x

He probably thought you would be a fallback if he wanted you, as he was the one who left, so he felt like he had the power and the choice. Knowing you've moved on removes that sense of control and that safety net.

He may also feel threatened by the possibility of a new man becoming a father-figure to his kids.

Territorial pissing, also.

Frozendaisy has it spot on. Just ignore him, and enjoy your new life!

He's allowed to move on. You are supposed to pine for him forever.

Yes maybe thought about the idea that he will not like a new man being kind and interested in the well behaved bf but f the kids as he , while he loves them, had minimal
Contact or interest in having them whereas my current bf is really looking forward to meeting them and shows a healthy interest in our day to day lives eg son going through therapy at the moment ... ex has not asked how it's going ... present man asks every day how he is doing . That won't go down
Well with ex .

Likely thought you were pining for him so to understand someone’s replaced him and you’re not has pissed him right off. I’d assume it’s about his ego

When my friend in a similar ish situation moved her new man it spurred her son’s Dad on to step up his parenting which was obviously good for her son.

It is like the toddler rules of possession with some of these inadequate men

"if it was mine once it is always mine"

ignore ignore ignore. his reactions or comments are no longer your worry - lucky you.

My ex was the same....
Threatened to punish me financially by cutting the maintenance if he saw my new partners car parked on the drive or even on the same street, a threat which he carired out. I could go on....
My ex left because he was having an affair, go figure....

They're pathetic aren't they . It makes exactly zero sense .

It makes perfect sense. He is entitled to what he wants and thinks he is the dog's bollocks. He is now alone whilst you are happy with someone else. That really upsets his self image.

He can move on but you're supposed to sit and wait for him just in case. So many men are like this, just ignore.

Dog in a manger. He doesn’t want you, but doesn’t want anyone else being with you. Utter wanker, ignore, don’t discuss plans in front of the dc, so they can’t be harassed into telling him anything.

Do I need to
Tell him I have new man, formally!? Kids will
Tell him in time
I'm sure

I wouldn't tell him a damn thing. It's none of his business.

I'd revel in his squirming. He who laughs last. ..

Say nothing unless you like a bit of drama.

Absolutely ignore any faces/comments. Rise above it. They then lose all power. Be annoyingly level headed and easy going. Very civil. Treat him like a neighbour that you don't like or dislike. Much nicer for the kids, gives you the upper hand and will annoy the fuck out of him.