Toxic sibling

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I will try not to make this too long.

I am the youngest of 3 and my older sibling has stopped taking me. Growing up we were very close and as a family we were very happy and loving to each other.

Since my brother got married, he has completely changed! He lives with my parents (quite normal in my culture). However, my parents don't want him there because of how he talks and treats them like but he refuses to leave.

My brother has a horrible temper and he has said some extremely shocking things to my parents and to me. I love my parents, and it hurts me to see the way he talks to them.

I have always tries not to be bias, and listen to what my brothers issues are. He has insulted and shouted at my parents In front of others before, and my parents seem very unhappy people now.

Usually I bite my tongue but inside my blood is boiling!

One evening, I was feeling very emotionally down for some reason and very snappy. My dad invited me and my family for a nice celebration meal, and since I go there he kept making snappy comments at me, I just ignored. During dinner he starts talking his shit as per usual, and I got really pissed off and told him to stop and to shut up and that I have had enough of him being so rude all the time. I told him, its not nice how he acts and that this is how he shouts at my parents in front of others, and that I am sure he does t like it either. He turned and told me, I will never be allowed at my parents house again, and I proceeded to tell him it is my parents house, and I will never ask for permission etc.

Fast forward, I messed him because I wanted to talk calm and apologise for shouting but get my point across. He ignored me. I received a text message saying he has cancelled the tickets to my wedding (a couple of months from now), that he has blocked me on social media and not to text him.

Fast forward, its been a couple of weeks and he has still not spoken.

I feel really hurt by him and his games but don't want to give up on him as he's my brother, even though it feels as though he has given up on me.

I don't feel I have done anything wrong and that he is just hurt because he got a small taste of his own medicine.

Please share your thoughts x

He’s an arse and your parents should sell the house out from under him or disinherit him

What do your parents think? Have you spoken to them about it?

Why don’t your parents throw him out? I would visit anyway and ignore his twattish behaviour.

My parents don't want confrontation because of the way he is..which is why I have kept my mouth shut for so long because of my parents.. but I've had enough of him trying to control the situation

I guess where he is their son and he also has 2 kids, my parents would feel responsible for making two innocent children homeless and plus its a cultural thing as well which makes it more difficult

You should not be crawling back. He's a control freak and you did the right thing to challenge his rudeness. He won't change so there's no point in making amends.

Unfortunately what your parents decide to do is up to them.

Your parents have let him take over, they should have stopped him in his tracks as soon as he started. If he wants to act like a big man then he needs to move out and buy a house for himself and his family. It sounds like the control and power has gone to his head.
How is his behaviour towards his wife and kids? I know from personal experience my brother was under instructions from his wife,she said jump and he said how high. He lied and took 12k from my parents, spent it on luxeries for his wife. Then when my parents needed looking after he was nowhere to be seen. Cut him out of your life,trust me you're better off. Meet your parents when he isn't home.
Toxic siblings ruin your inner peace, life is much better without their poison. I'm sorry you and your parents are being bullied by this man.

He’s abusive and needs to be stopped